brightskies Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 The original thread (He wants to try again? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=154590) was getting too long, so here's the update on my story: What a weekend! Between moving to a new town out of state and the Ex, there was a lot happening. The whole time I was moving the Ex kept texting and calling but I was insanely busy and didn't respond. When I finally had a chance to breath I checked my yahoo IM and email and he had left several messages. One that caught my eye said that he was really worried since he hadn't heard from me in 3 days. I have a history of passing out due to health issues, and his only brother had died very suddenly from heart failure, so his concern was reasonable. He even tried calling hospitals in my area. He wrote: 10:42:38 PM ****: ***, I am very concerned about you. The last time I could not reach you was when you collapsed. Therefore in order to get your address ... 10:44:33 PM ****: I am considering driving to your friends in ** 10:47:23 PM ****: You have about two hours to stop me from doing something stupid ... 10:48:15 PM ****: My phone is on for you to reach me 10:49:29 PM ****: ### ### #### 10:50:30 PM ****: Laptop is off 10:51:43 PM ****: Je t aime It was near midnight and he was starting the 5-hour drive to my roommates (he didn't have their number) when I called him back. It turned out that he was in my new town, and had been for 2 days! His car was having trouble so he rented one and he had driven 8 hours with no guarantee that he would see me. I was filthy and dead tired from all the heavy lifting and stairs and was in no mood to entertain, let me tell ya. But after I found out that he had come all this way on the mere hope of meeting up I agreed to see him. It just seemed too cruel to refuse, I was curious, and, I have to admit, my heart melted a little when I heard about his little stunt. He said he didn’t want to impose and would say hello for just five minutes. He ended up staying for over 7 hours. I was exhausted and half asleep, but it was surprisingly nice to see him. He did most of the talking while I listened. Much of what he had to say was the kind of thing I wish he had said when we were together. He seemed genuinely regretful, humbled, apologetic, and sincere. He showed me the note he was planning to give to my old roommates in case they weren’t home. It was so polite and sweet. He asked to spend the day together and was willing to sleep on the floor since I didn’t have a spare bed. The part of me that was touched wanted him to stay longer, but the part of me on the defensive told him I was nervous and uncomfortable. It was all so sudden, and I felt that I needed more time. He said he was afraid that if he waited too long that I’d decide not to see him. He wanted to prove how much he wanted me back. The conversation was bittersweet; a lot of emotions came up. I want to give him another chance, but I don’t know if this “new” him will last. Also, he’s still in transition and has been living with his parents since we broke up. I’m concerned that if a major reason for his withdrawal before was insecurity about his career and finances, and he’s still in a not so stable situation, then who’s to say it won’t happen again? In answer to that, he said he is much happier, is getting his life together, and has found a new job. He feels that he’s in a good place and said, “… being with you would be extra incentive to become a better person and to have more success in my career.” If we got back together, he said that he’d move to my area and get a job here. Since his first contact over 2 weeks ago he has been exactly the kind of affectionate, warm, thoughtful person that he was in the beginning of our relationship, before things went wrong. He’s being bold and romantic now, and it’s all very exciting, but will he be reliable and steadfast in the long run? Would you trust your heart to someone like this again? Should I wait and see? How long would you wait? How long does it take for a person’s true colors to show beyond the courting stage?
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