Adamagnet Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Men: Have you ever been significantly attracted to an individual with a BMI a few points above yours? Women: Have you ever maintained an extended (multi-month) relationship with a person who was much thinner than you?
Shygirl15 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 No, I would never date (not to mention go into a relationship), with a guy thinner than me.
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I've dated/been in relationships with men who had quite a bit higher BMI but less body fat, not that I have that much. I'm small framed and petite, so yes, I have dated men who've been technically thinner but not thinner-looking than I.
Author Adamagnet Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 No, I would never date (not to mention go into a relationship), with a guy thinner than me. Are you already pretty thin?
Author Adamagnet Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 I've dated/been in relationships with men who had quite a bit higher BMI but less body fat, not that I have that much. I'm small framed and petite, so yes, I have dated men who've been technically thinner but not thinner-looking than I. Have you seen any correlation to relationship length and BMI discrepancy?
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Have you seen any correlation to relationship length and BMI discrepancy? Zero, unless one party lets themselves go badly.
Shygirl15 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Are you already pretty thin? No, I'm not thin, I would say average. 5'7", 165lbs.
StartingOver07 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Men: Have you ever been significantly attracted to an individual with a BMI a few points above yours? Women: Have you ever maintained an extended (multi-month) relationship with a person who was much thinner than you? My BMI is ~ 20, and I don't think I have ever dated anyone whose BMI was lower. FWIW, I think BMI is a useless measure, as someone who is lean but has lots of muscle will weigh more (and have a higher BMI) than someone else who looks fatter.
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Realistically speaking, most women have more body fat than men, when the condition of their health is on par. This is a given. Welcome to being female.
D-Lish Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Well, I am pretty thin, so the notion of dating a man thinner than I am is a bit of a turn off. I did date a guy for a bit who was rockstar skinny- maybe 5'10", 140lbs... (I am 5'7", 120lbs) But he had zero body fat and jutting hip bones. He appeared much thinner than me- and I didn't like that much.
twice_shy Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Men: Have you ever been significantly attracted to an individual with a BMI a few points above yours? Yes. I am not that superficial.
D-Jam Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Men: Have you ever been significantly attracted to an individual with a BMI a few points above yours? Women: Have you ever maintained an extended (multi-month) relationship with a person who was much thinner than you? I never worry too much about the BMI. I'm either attracted to her or I'm not. She could be thinner or curvier and if I like her, then I'm going for it. I'm not about to bring a measuring tape and scale to dates.
Carmen87 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I don't go by BMI as it is pretty inaccurate. I wouldn't be attracted to someone who was thinner than me. I am 5'5 and 115-120 lbs so a guy skinnier than that would weird me out.
Author Adamagnet Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 I'm not about to bring a measuring tape and scale to dates. Hah! That sounds like an awesome idea for a sketch comedy show. I realize that BMI is imperfect, but its the best metric for "bulk". Chest circumference is meaningless when comparing women and men for their relative mass. Let's take a hypothetical. Could you be attracted to a woman with a BMI 5 pts above yours?
D-Jam Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Let's take a hypothetical. Could you be attracted to a woman with a BMI 5 pts above yours? Again, it all depends on the total package. If she has a slightly larger BMI, but looks great, then I won't worry about it. If she's got a higher BMI and looks large, then I'll not be attracted. Plus toss in there personality as well. In the end, I'm not about trying to find someone thinner and/or "absolutely physically perfect", but I've stated in many arenas how I am not attracted to large women. I'm not as picky on how thin she is...just as long as she's of a healthy weight.
fral945 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Let's take a hypothetical. Could you be attracted to a woman with a BMI 5 pts above yours? Highly unlikely (but I won't say impossible). I'm 5'9" and 175 lbs. That puts my BMI at 25.8 and I am technically classified as overweight according to the charts (which isn't really applicable to me since I lift a lot of weights and carry about 20 extra lbs of muscle). That would put a woman at 30.8 (in the obese range). That means if I dated a girl 5'3" she would weight the same as me. A woman really shouldn't weigh more than me unless she is over 6' tall. Those type of women probably wouldn't date me anyway because I'm too short.
amymarieca Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Being a plus-sized girl (size 16 to be exact), I have dated many men who are skinnier than me- lol. I have never dated someone larger than me, however, because I am not attracted to overweight men. You would be surprised at how many men don't actually see weight as an issue. I am overweight and I get approached by men all the time. I even had someone ask me for my phone number while driving! It really comes down to your personality and your self-confidence. If you suck as a person or are always down on yourself, then of course no one will want you, fat or thin.
mental_traveller Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Men: Have you ever been significantly attracted to an individual with a BMI a few points above yours? Yes, definitely. There are some very hot curvy girls out there. Check out "Whole lotta Rosie" by AC/DC, lots of wisdom in that song
Balthazar Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 At six foot two and 208 pounds, my BMW is 26.7. This puts me in the overweight category, and I could definitely lose about 10 pounds , however I am carrying some extra muscle from exercise, so it is not as bad as it appears. I don't think I would be attracted to a woman at my BMI; I usually go for ladies with a BMI of 20-21 or so. My ideal would be about 5'7 and 130 pounds or so. My ex was 5'9'' and 150 but was the voluptuous type.
havoc Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I have almost always dated men with a lower BMI than I. I am not overweight, but I like them lean, I guess. Never had a problem standing next to them either, thinking I might look "fat," ha. I don't think it's comparable -- I have hips and boobs, they don't, so I certainly would hope no one is out there comparing my body to my date's..!
bish Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Being a plus-sized girl (size 16 to be exact), I have dated many men who are skinnier than me- lol. I have never dated someone larger than me, however, because I am not attracted to overweight men. Well there is a double standard right there. You would be surprised at how many men don't actually see weight as an issue. I am overweight and I get approached by men all the time. And there may be other reasons for that...you know, that whole idea about the cushion. I even had someone ask me for my phone number while driving! It really comes down to your personality and your self-confidence. If you suck as a person or are always down on yourself, then of course no one will want you, fat or thin. Ya, but you said it yourself. You don't want "fat" men. So your own theory doesn't apply to you?
Trialbyfire Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 My BMI is 18.9. A guy would seriously have to be skin and bones or be very...delicate, to have a lower BMI. Most men have much larger frames, less fat and more muscle. Overall, longevity of relationship is a combination of physical and non-superficial attraction. Basically, compatibility. It also includes compatible lifestyles. If you're the type of person who enjoys a healthy lifestyle, best to find someone who has corresponding beliefs and discipline. I state discipline because it's too easy to let yourself go.
Replicant Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 My BMI is 18.9. A guy would seriously have to be skin and bones or be very...delicate, to have a lower BMI. Most men have much larger frames, less fat and more muscle. Overall, longevity of relationship is a combination of physical and non-superficial attraction. Basically, compatibility. It also includes compatible lifestyles. If you're the type of person who enjoys a healthy lifestyle, best to find someone who has corresponding beliefs and discipline. I state discipline because it's too easy to let yourself go. On the contrary, i think you flex quite a bit of muscle around here!
AriaIncognito Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 A womans BMI is supposed to average higher than a males. We are supposed to have a higher percentage of body fat. So, I'm not sure the point of the thread. As for myself, I've dated 1 person that was about 25lbs lighter than me and we were the same height. We dated for 18 months or so. I've also dated men that were like 30-40lbs heavier. It's not something I typically use to decide if i'm going to date someone, either I'm attracted to someone, or I'm not. I'm also a size 16, and am considered obese in the BMI scale. I go to the gym and exercise regularly. Some people are just naturally heavier than others. Sure, I can and will lose more weight, but I think my body would never go below say, a size 10 or 12. As for someone saying the other size 16 poster was employing a double standard, you're attracted to whoever you're attracted to. I dont think it's a double standard. Heavy girls dont need to only go after heavy guys any more than thin girls only have to go for thin men. We are all attracted to others for different reasons.
Trialbyfire Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 On the contrary, i think you flex quite a bit of muscle around here! Edit - Haha...I figured it out....nvm...doh...so stunned!
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