Babby_trendy Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 We were together for 11 years, part of why he broke up with me was because I was neglecting myself and him, I was stressed with college. We lived together and he moved out, he was talking to a girl from his school for 2 weeks before he broke up with me. He is now going on a vacation to aruba with her on july 5th, this is where he took me last year and proposed to me. He says he wants to be friends, I said we were not brought together to be friends. He also said if we are meant to be then it is and let's see if I change in a few months. I asked him how will it be that we are meant to be if you are with someone else. He said they are friends (yeah right- going o vacation maybe sharing a room!) He still loves me and has feelings for me and I do too but he says he needs to do this for himself because I never appreciated him. He said I should have cleaned the house and appreciated him and this wouldn't have happened. He said this is hard for him to do. I do not know if what he is having is a rebound relationship. she is filling the empty void that I did not fill and is providing him with all he wants to hear because he is emotional and it is easy for her to latch onto him. I said we will never see eachother again- he said we will be because we still have stuff to take care of. He tells me I should move on and then when I am with him and get a phonecall and do not answer it he gets all jealous. I know that I have my foot in the door because we were together for 11 years and he still loves me and has feelings for me but He is giving me mixed signals. I want to make it work, I love him so much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
critter909 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I have a somewhat similar situation, I was together with my bf for almost 10 years when we broke up 2 weeks ago. Things had been going south for a couple of years becasue of his drinking. I found out he was dating someone immediatly after the break up, and it is killing me. I would be willing to work with him on all our issues and possibly forgive him for the many things he has done in the course of his drinking but not that. If he has been having sex with this person there is no way I can live with it. So, i don't know how you personally feel about that, but to me fidelity is the bedrock of any relationship and once that is broken you can't get it back. You have to be really sure you can forgive him or it won't work out, it won't be the kind of relationship you had or probably want.
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