critter909 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I just wanted to tell everyone that you should stick with the NC. I started last Thursday and he finally called me last night (6 days). It was SOOOO hard but worth it. I don't know why but it is so satisfying in some way to have them call you on their own, not in response to something you initiated. And I don't mean just for the hope of working out your differences but just to know that they do care and didn't just walk away and forget about you. He even told me he wasn't ready to "talk" to me yet, but just wanted to see if I'm doing Ok. It made me feel really good, somehow helped validate the time we did spend together and the importance I place on the relationship.
Love_Forest Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 congratulation on you achievements and the fact you feel good, and and also because he is care about you
Abomination Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Congrats critter909! I'm just starting NC (day 1). I can only hope to be as strong as you and stay away from my ex girl, who confuses the hell out of me. I also agree with Love_Forest. When they call you first, of course it means they're thinking about you, and it makes you feel good. - A
Sydder223 Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I have a fear about NC, I'm afraid that I was too harsh for my girl to call me... She said stuff like "instead of saying goodbye lets say I hope to see you again" and "you will always have a special place in my heart, I still care." But I replied with "Goodbye ____, I hope you find what your looking for, but its time to move on." and went NC from there... I really hope she calls, but on the other hand, I find it really helps to think of all the negative things about her. It makes you feel great, and like maybe she wasn't good enough for you anyway.
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Syderman, I know what you mean. What I said was even more clear/"harsh" than what you said so I understand. I wrote my EX an E-Mail around a month ago basically stating that I could never, under any circumstance, be friends with him and that I needed to close this chapter in my life. I clearly asked him to not E-Mail me, Instant Message me, call me, or communicate with me in any way, shape, or form as I needed to move on with my life...
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