Loukos_od Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 She keeps calling every month.Small talk like "how is it going .Job health bla bla bla" .Last time 1 month ago i talked to her for 2 min and then said i should go and hang up the phone.Thought she would understand that it is not sth pleasant to me to talk to her like buddies.But yesterday she called again .I was planning to tell her not to call me again .But i couldn't do it.I was pleasant and we talked for 20 min.2 months ago when she first called me i asked her if she would like to go for a walk with me .She said no.So yesterday she said ."I didn't like that i rejected your proposal for a wAlk 2 months ago but it was early for sth like that."We broke up xmas time not in a bad way .But in the first 2 months i told her that i would like to talk with her once in a while.She said "better not" I respected that .Never called her.She was the one to keep calling.3-4 phonecalls she made in the first 2 months .Then we went completely nc.And then .Mid april i got the first call.Small talk.Like 2 friends.This is when i asked her to go for a walk with me.And she said she was not in a mood for that .And she was feeling frustrated with her new job and that she would give me a bad mood.Bull***t , i know.Mid may a 2nd call.And yesterday she called again.An as i said i was planning to tell her not to call me again.But i just could't.So yesterday she goes.."i was feeling bad for rejecting you like that the other day it was too early. .And u should drop a line sometime."I said ok cool .But when we finished i felt so bad .I feel like this phonecall took me a step back.And that she is making all the rules.I mean my hands were shaking and my nose was bleeding when i asked her to talk with me once in a while.And she said no.(politely).And now.She feels like calling and she is just calls.She doesn't think of me . my feelings.She is doing that only cuz of her feelings.Cuz she is feeling guilty or lonely.I would do anything for that girl.I admire her .She is an angel and she is a fighter.But when i said once that we admirred eachother she said "i was admiring u @ the beggining.L8r i was just trying to admire u " That is cruel to say .Anyway .I don't want to talk with her on the phone but it is hard for me to say it to her.I want to marry her she is all i ever wanted .And i can't stand the thought of her beeing away from me with somebody else.I don't want her to call me on my birthday or at any time for any reason . I would like her to come back to me but we all know that "u can't do anything to make her come back to you.In fact you can only make things to get her away from you" -swingers-.So shall i show that i am here in a cool way ?cUZ I WAS REALLY PLEASANT and xplained that everything is going ok with my life . Shall i go on representing love but in a away that she keeps her options and i don't put pressure on her.I mean .When i went nc all these 6 months showing her at the same time that i have no prob talkin to her gives more value to my actions and my feelings..Or shall i tell her to go nc with me ? .
Author Loukos_od Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 Anybody ? Pls ? Some Advice Should B Really Helpfull
t_veron Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Anybody ? Pls ? Some Advice Should B Really Helpfull That's a tough one buddy. Could be she's between guys, has issues to deal with, not into you, scared, doesn't know how to handle all the deep feelings.... etc. Sounds like you really liked her more than she liked you. Women do this as a means to keep their "options" open. If something or someone better doesn't come along then tag you're it. Sad I know to feel like you're the consilation prize. On the bright side you should be doing the same thing and realize feelings for women develop much slower than for us guys. That's reality so accept it and just cruize at her pace until her actions (not her words, never listen to her words) show you she wants more. But if your feelings are too strong for her then you're just cruizing for heartache and need to back off to only phone calls once in a while or NC until you have no more feelings for her.
justaman99 Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I don't think it's that complicated at all. If she's a reasonable girl tell her exactly what you're telling us. It's that simple. Say you need more from her and still love her and this once in a while call thing isn't good for you and she's not considering your feelings. Be a man, step up, speak your mind to the one that counts. If she's an angel she'll respect what you have to say and you for saying it.
Author Loukos_od Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 Her actions r showing me that she hasn't gotten over me yet.Her words r showing me that she just wants to be friends or sth.But i showed dignity and believe me guyz it was a very tough thing to do.But i feel mighty good now.To go through all this without crying on the phone and begging her to come back.first of all i believe that this is feeding our psychology.Makin us feel more "men"Second i believe that if i would cal her all the time and begg her she would't b calling right now.But i am coming to the decision not to talk to her not to call her and see what she will do.I did what i had to do when we broke up.I xpressed my feelings and told her that i understood a lot of things.But once .Only once .I had to do it.Now she has to make her move.I will not run behind her like she is the prize or sth like that.I made some minor mistakes (we all do)but generally i was supportive generous i was sweet and romantic and never put pressure to her or try to be manipulative..she had her time with her friends like i had mine. and she know we match A LOT..If she thinks she will find sth better then me out there then she can try .My last gf before her (we were 8 yrs 2gether) hasnt made a relationship since we broke up (5 yrs now!!!) and last time we talked she said she cant find a man like me. Think i will do that.let her make her move.The nc thing maybe is showing results and i will keep doin it . But it is also sth i do with my instict cuz i am to afraid to get close to her now cuz she caused me a lot of pain.It has been 6 months and i am still in this up and down thing.Sometimes i get very depressive some times i feel a bit better. Anyway thx for advise guyz.Wish u the best in your affairs and sorry for my english. Respect
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