Loss 4 words Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 ok...long story short is that right now i'm 'the other guy' to a woman who is sorta/kinda dating her most recent ex boyfriend again....and it's really killing both of us. They originally broke up a month or so ago and she had just met me by then, but as it always happens (although from the start i promised myself i wouldn't) i totally fell in love with her and she too loves me, but the ex was/is trying to get back with her and from all accounts it looks like it is very likely she will (he's kinda made the descison for her at this point...)....from what she's told me, she's wicked torn and confused because she's never been in this prediciment before and wants to be with both of us....they have a long hsitory and she and I have so much in common that it's not even funny. She and i have a great time together and enjoy it.....heck, a few days ago we drove up to the beach at midnight...and just sat out there talking and walking along the beach in the moonlight. I'm the one she calls when she's getting ready to go out with him...and he's in the next room watching tv....jsut small stuff like that... She tells me she loves and misses me on almost a daily basis (through texting if she's with him even) and we have expressed our feelings to eachother about how we feel....but the whole ex thing is really getting to me...i can respect the fact that she wants to be with him....it's the whole "comfortable shoe" thing....but if you want to be with me, then let go....that's my issue... FYI- We are/do the "I Love you" thing....which really complicates things further from the emotional standpoint.
Potatocakes Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 It's not fair to you what shes doing. I know you love her but you have to have some self respect and do some no contact until she decides what she wants.
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 It's not fair to you what shes doing. I know you love her but you have to have some self respect and do some no contact until she decides what she wants. That's gonna kill me (not literally) because I care for her so much and I've told her....we talked about what's gonna (probably) happen if she gets back with her ex and she sounded distraught about it all.... I do know that the ex was 'grumpy' (to say the least) about her and i going to the beach...at that hour..so i'm probably his least favorite person right now....I'm going after the same thing...HER ! ( I sense some jeliousy there...maybe.)
Jilly Bean Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I wouldn't say she's playing you at all, since she seems to be very honest about her other guy. I would say the only one playing you for a fool would be you, though. What are you getting out of this, considering you know how it's going to end?
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 I wouldn't say she's playing you at all, since she seems to be very honest about her other guy. I would say the only one playing you for a fool would be you, though. What are you getting out of this, considering you know how it's going to end? Well, I'm an optimist and yeah, I figure i don't have a snowball's chance in Hell of her being "my girlfriend" right now but there is still a chance that they don't work out (again) and then that's when i come swooping back into the picture in a different role. I'm getting a great friendship out of it...she knows most everything about who I am and the stuff from my life....and someone who understands me and accepts me....which is a rare thing for me..
Krytie TV Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 If she says she's torn, yeah, that means this is probably going to end badly for you. These things just don't typically work out, but I wish you the best. It would be a good idea to try to build separation. I know, easier said than done.
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