sunshinegirl Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 That totally makes sense. Maybe I'm saying contradictory things. On the one hand, I don't think my identity was bound up in him/us...but: I was definitely letting personal goals/interests slide. In part because I got little to no support from him in pursuing them, in part because we both travel and so when we were both in town we spent time together (to the detriment of my friendships and outside hobbies). Ugh. I don't know where the balance is. The fact is, when he dumped me I went into the downward spiral of "what was wrong with me" instead of "what's wrong with HIM for being a cheater"?
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