mental_traveller Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I know everyone's preferences are different, but do you guys think I'm too thin? http://img76.imageshack.us/img76/963/meaq3.jpg I like the weight I'm at now, but sometimes other people make comments like "you're so skinny" and it kind of disturbs me. Too thin for what, joining weight-watchers? I would say you are thin but not excessively so. As long as you aren't becoming bony with ribs showing, then don't worry about it and ignore the comments. Or reply with "Why, are you jealous?"
mental_traveller Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Where do you guys think I need more meat on my bones? I won't be offended. This is exactly the kind of feedback I was looking for. Lol, is this a trick question? You don't *need* more meat anywhere. You can't suddenly change your entire body shape just by adding some pounds, it will just go on as flab. Marilyn Monroe could never look like Kate Moss and vice versa, no matter what diets and exercise programs they went on, they just have different body shapes. Just be content with the shape that nature gave you, and find a guy who digs it.
D-Jam Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 It's ok I get a little hyped up over such issues, even though I really have nothing to worry about. I think a LOT of women who worry really have little or nothing to worry about. I'm on the commute home today and I see beautiful women everywhere. All different shapes and sizes. Healthy weight on all of them. Sexy summer outfits, stylish shades, it was wonderful. I try my hardest when it comes to this topic to get women to understand that we men are not all about the photos in the magazines. We're just about the good woman who is easy on the eyes and of a healthy weight...along with a brain and a heart of gold. Lots of women out there are beautiful, and many men are noticing (only a lot of us are still trying to figure out the best means to approach or get an opening ) I think the OP looks great and she should really work on her own self esteem to know that she's a head-turner in my book.
Author shadowplay Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 I kind of regret posting this thread now. It was impulsive, and I think some people took my question the wrong way. TBF: Believe it or not I'm working my way up to telling my therapist about the BDD, and I do mean to tell her once I've reached a certain comfort level. It's an extremely embarrassing topic for me, especially because I fear that people will assume I'm vain or not understand (I've encountered that reaction in the past). I've revealed a lot about myself to her already, but there is still more to uncover. It just takes time for me to fully trust. LS is actually the only place in my life that I feel comfortable letting it all hang out because I don't actually know anybody on here so there's no risk of rejection. Perhaps that's what keeps pulling me back. But I find that I am even affected by the opinions of people on here. If someone leaves an unkind remark, I take it personally even if I've never met them.
carhill Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 No regrets Shadow. Own your choice. IMO, if you don't trust your therapist by now, fuggetaboutit.... I knew from the initial interview that our psychologist was someone who'd really work with us. No secrets. It's really the only way to fly
cutegirl Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 It would do you some good to volunteer for a children's center, or at an elderly home, battered women's shelter, etc. You are sitting around worrying if you have the perfect body type, fretting that your "boyfriend" wouldn't mind if you lost a few pounds, I mean, who really cares? Looks are just looks, they don't make you a good person. You need to have some meaning in your life. You seem awfully focused on superficial things. Become a Big Sister to a troubled child who needs guidance and stop worrying about losing a few pounds, or gaining a few pounds and what you look like all the time. Eh, there's nothing wrong with being superficial about worrying about your looks. I am not afraid to admit that I am extremely vain, spends loads of time and money on my looks/clothes/hair/shoes/makeup. I don't volunteer, and I still feel damn good about myself! Nothing annoys me more than self righteous people. It's a free country. People have the right to be as self-obsessed and vain as they WANT. What's it to anybody else?
Balthazar Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Maybe I should take a photo of my boobs and start a thread asking if you all think they are too big. I second that. Such a thread would be enlightening in the extreme. I would be more than happy to offer any insights on said boobs.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Eh, there's nothing wrong with being superficial about worrying about your looks. I am not afraid to admit that I am extremely vain, spends loads of time and money on my looks/clothes/hair/shoes/makeup. I don't volunteer, and I still feel damn good about myself! Nothing annoys me more than self righteous people. It's a free country. People have the right to be as self-obsessed and vain as they WANT. What's it to anybody else? There's nothing wrong with caring about how you look. Obsessing about it, talking about it, thinking about it constantly is extremely annoying to other people. Volunteering gets you out of yourself and focused on the world around you. It's not about being self-righteous. It's about how you focus your energies in the world. Personally, I'd rather spend time with people who have perspective in life and who use their good fortunes to help those who may not be as fortunate. When I was feeling down last year, and very caught up in my own problems, I started volunteering at a local charter school. I still do it because it is so rewarding and because I am making a positive difference in a child's life. It's hard to obsess about losing ten pounds when the 6 year old kid you're working with is trying to recover from witnessing a stabbing/robbery in a convenient store. You asked what's it to anybody else so there you have it.
Trialbyfire Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 shadow, while I understand not trusting people right off the bat, it's self-defeating if you can't open up to your therapist. Any help he/she attempts to give you, the entire focus and direction of your sessions, will be based on the information you provide to him/her. When you mislead them, perhaps not deliberately, the help/focus can be detrimental. Either open up or find another therapist you can trust and actively work with.
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