Balthazar Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 I'm 6'2'', 208 pounds. When I see poundages in the 110-120 range I think of my childhood years.
AriaIncognito Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 I'm a female. You know who I am I think (name was changed recently but it used to have aria and a gender in it lol). As for fake boobs, no way. I think your chest is proportionate to the rest of you. As for the person who said curvy was only used for overweight women - i'm not sure if i agree. I didn't mean it in an overweight sense. I would prefer to see 10-15 on the OP though I think. While I think she looks good at her weight, it would depend on if she was doing anything unhealthy (starvation or an ED or something but it doesn't sound like she is) if i believed she truly HAD to gain weight to be healthy. I dont think (from the picture only) that this is the case. As for the validation, well, I think in some ways, we all seek it. Some just more than others.
Trialbyfire Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 I'm 6'2'', 208 pounds. When I see poundages in the 110-120 range I think of my childhood years. So...less than that are your toddler years? *toddles off*
Enema Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 I don't think you need any extra weight anywhere. Different size boobs would be just that... different, not better or worse imo. Don't worry about what other people think. Most people would probably kill for your genetics, which is probably why they suggest you're too skinny - jealous.
D-Lish Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 You really can't use fashion as a point here, the Kate Moss look is highly unattractive, I'd sooner sleep with someone of Oprah Winfrey's size then a model. And you are underweight D-lish, your BMI will state so, you for all your appearance finesse are underweight = unhealthy. Chomp into some french fries. I'm just letting Shadow know that she looks fine- that I have seen grossly skinny, and been too skinny- and her body looks great in the picture- meaning there is no need for her to get upset about comments about her weight. The fashion mags aren't something any woman should realistically compare themselves to. Up close and in person- it aint pretty...believe me. I am using the point to actually illustrate that it ISN'T attractive to be overly skinny. For me, settling out at 125lbs is my goal.
jerbear Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I know everyone's preferences are different, but do you guys think I'm too thin? http://img76.imageshack.us/img76/963/meaq3.jpg I like the weight I'm at now, but sometimes other people make comments like "you're so skinny" and it kind of disturbs me. Forget the other people! I'm jealous of your BF, you're a cutie! No you are not so skinny. Just have to be comfortable in your own skin.
MalachiX Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 To quote the film Before Sunset, "I'd have to see you naked..."
Kamille Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Great idea...You go first I'd play too but unfortunately I just have pecs and con't compete with boobs. I'll be more than happy to let you ladies know if your cans are too big though. Pecs? What, where? We definitely should have a thread titled : "How are my pecs?" with special bonus points for fantastics abs. As long as your ribs aren't showing right below your collar bone, you should be fine. Ooh yeah, the Courtney Cox look. I tend to lose weight in the collarbone area, and when the breast plate becomes visible, I know it's time for some generous intake of Haagen Dazs.
stillafool Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 No you don't look too thin to me. But I agree with the poster that said they would need to see a front pic instead of a side view. You may be pushing your butt out some. Aren't you pregnant? How far along are you because you definitely aren't showing in the pic.
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 No you don't look too thin to me. But I agree with the poster that said they would need to see a front pic instead of a side view. You may be pushing your butt out some. Aren't you pregnant? How far along are you because you definitely aren't showing in the pic. Was pregnant. I'd rather not post another picture. I feel stupid about posting the first one.
carhill Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Here's where you can do some work. You had a question about something personal. It was important to you (perhaps only at that moment, but that's valid). Your work is accepting that importance and that it might even be (but is not required to be) important to or matter to others who might "know" you here and be interested in your life. That's not "stupid" feelings, it's being human. Own that. I've been dealing with stuff of my own so didn't know you were no longer pregnant. Thanks for sharing that
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 shadow, you shouldn't feel stupid about posting the first pic. Where you might feel stupid is attempting to hide your real reasoning for posting the pic. Validation is something that everyone needs to an extent. In posting it in the way that manipulates the masses to get what you want, which is validation through admiration and attention, is something you do repetitively on LS and will be something you get called on.
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 shadow, you shouldn't feel stupid about posting the first pic. Where you might feel stupid is attempting to hide your real reasoning for posting the pic. Validation is something that everyone needs to an extent. In posting it in the way that manipulates the masses to get what you want, which is validation through admiration and attention, is something you do repetitively on LS and will be something you get called on. I thought I did say that I was looking for validation that I'm not too thin...?
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I thought I did say that I was looking for validation that I'm not too thin...? Do you honestly believe you're too thin?
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 Do you honestly believe you're too thin? No, I don't feel that I am, but I get the sense (some) other people think so. Just based on comments I get in regards to my weight or diet. I find it pretty weird because I'm nowhere near anorexic looking, and it really bugs me when people call me skinny.
electric_sheep Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 You look fabulous to me. You're exactly my type.
electric_sheep Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 BTW, just scanned through some of these posts and saw some boob talk. IMHO small boobs are really sexy, though your's don't appear to be small by any means. I dated a girl with practically no boobs once, and I thought she was terribly sexy. Just little nippers to nip on. Boobs are great in all their variety and forms. I have no idea where bigger became synonymous with better. Typically American. It's not like the male anatomy, where size might actually serve a functional purpose. Don't feel silly for posting your pic. I've often wanted to post a couple of nudes on here, but figured it wouldn't be appreciated, hee hee.
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 No, I don't feel that I am, but I get the sense (some) other people think so. Just based on comments I get in regards to my weight or diet. shadow, what you were looking for was validation through admiration and attention, that you have a great body which...you know that you do... It's how you present it, that you're concerned that you are too thin, that gets annoying. Also, I feel this ties into your belief that through body image and sexuality, you hold power and enjoy wielding it. It's also part of your insecurity, that without this power of attraction, you don't rate. It's how you hold men close to you but can't wield this power over women, which makes you feel insecure thus making it difficult to have female friends.
electric_sheep Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Where are you at? Maybe we could meet for coffee?
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 shadow, what you were looking for was validation through admiration and attention, that you have a great body which...you know that you do... It's how you present it, that you're concerned that you are too thin, that gets annoying. Also, I feel this ties into your belief that through body image and sexuality, you hold power and enjoy wielding it. It's also part of your insecurity, that without this power of attraction, you don't rate. It's how you hold men close to you but can't wield this power over women, which makes you feel insecure thus making it difficult to have female friends. I can see how you might come to that conclusion, but I think you underestimate how insecure I am. I'm very self-critical.
electric_sheep Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Also, I feel this ties into your belief that through body image and sexuality, you hold power and enjoy wielding it. This is what I want. A cute girl to wield her power over me.
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 Just wanted to add that I know you will probably dismiss whatever I say and there's no way of making you believe me, but I am being honest. My self image fluctuates as much as my emotions. Sometimes I feel good about myself, other times I feel totally loathsome. The one thing you're right about is feeling like I can wield power over guys in my more confident moments.
Trialbyfire Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Just wanted to add that I know you will probably dismiss whatever I say and there's no way of making you believe me, but I am being honest. My self image fluctuates as much as my emotions. Sometimes I feel good about myself, other times I feel totally loathsome. The one thing you're right about is feeling like I can wield power over guys in my more confident moments. The only way to avoid this roller coaster ride, is to realize that allowing other people to define you, is an exercise in futility. You cannot rely on external validation to the level you need it, without taking personal hits to your self-esteem and self-respect when the reaction isn't positive. Are you still in therapy? If so, how honest are you being with your therapist?
StartingOver07 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 shadow, what you were looking for was validation through admiration and attention, that you have a great body which...you know that you do... It's how you present it, that you're concerned that you are too thin, that gets annoying. Also, I feel this ties into your belief that through body image and sexuality, you hold power and enjoy wielding it. It's also part of your insecurity, that without this power of attraction, you don't rate. It's how you hold men close to you but can't wield this power over women, which makes you feel insecure thus making it difficult to have female friends. I was going to stay out of this thread because the disingenuousness of the original question was irritating. (I have a build very similar to yours and I know damn well that it is attractive even though there are some who prefer heavier/slimmer builds.) The post above by TBF is spot on and something to consider very carefully. Not only in terms of how destructive it is to yourself to see all your self-worth tied to your physical self, but what you are missing out by not being able to form close friendships with other women. p.s. Why isn't this in the "Physical Fitness" forum? It's not about dating. I suspect the answer also goes to your need for validation.
Author shadowplay Posted June 19, 2008 Author Posted June 19, 2008 The only way to avoid this roller coaster ride, is to realize that allowing other people to define you, is an exercise in futility. You cannot rely on external validation to the level you need it, without taking personal hits to your self-esteem and self-respect when the reaction isn't positive. Are you still in therapy? If so, how honest are you being with your therapist? Yeah, I am. But I haven't talked about my insecurities much with her. I just find it a pretty embarrassing subject.
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