D-Jam Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 When i posted this thread i was a little mad, I am okay now. I am not overweight if thats what your thinking, im 5'9 and 145lbs which is 21.6 bmi. I am not hideous, i just lack cofidence, and am not so good at socializing. That's perfectly fine. The first step is admitting your faults, and being willing to fix them. My suggestion is to get yourself into social situations. Join some meetups, meet people just for the sake of friendships. Go to parties when people invite you and make it a point to introduce yourself to some people and get to know them. ALSO...learn to train your mind to see just how minuscule a rejection is. It's not the end of your life. It's not a big sign saying "YOU'RE A LOSER", it's just a rejection. Confidence comes when you believe in yourself, but also when you realize just how little rejection will hurt when you not see it as the big monster. Biggest things I've learned in life when it comes to women: Never be afraid to freak or creep one out by being honest and flirty. I'd rather flirt with a pretty girl and have her run away than never try. Eventually you meet one who flirts back.Never apologize when you did nothing wrong. You see those movies and TV shows where the nervous geek apologizes every 2 seconds, don't do that. Apologize when you really do something wrong, not for just being you. Women like men who stand bold.Never make someone a priority when you're only an option to them. So you meet a girl and like her, but she's unsure on you, keep talking to her but keep meeting other women. Prioritize the first girl when she's wanting to be more with you.Never ask yourself "Do I have a shot with her?" Always ask "Does she deserve to be with me?" This is why I don't pursue club women anymore. I realized none of them deserved me. Not fronting an ego, but these women willingly pick men who hurt them, so why should I try to "save" them from themselves? Screw that, find the girl who deserves you...the one who picked you over the rest.TAKE CHANCES. Better to try and fail than never to try at all. Take this to heart, and please ask more questions here so we can help you.
Author Bloodelf Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 oooh rejection, thats another fun topic. I hate rejection, cant help but take it personally, i wish i could just brush it off and not let it bother me, oh well.
carhill Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 On another thread, I related how I took rejection and turned it into a sizable Exxon stock portfolio Lemonade....
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