claycald Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 ok well... a few days ago at work i was talking to my coworker when she brought up she was getting married. as of two weeks ago she was single. turns out this guy she is marrying is her first everything and she is his first everything. her first boyfriend, her first date, kiss, ;), etc. they broke up six years ago. though they both have been through many relationships, he has been married, they both have their own kids (he has 3 she has 1). he has already said he wants to adopt her child as his own. now im not saying all of you will ever get your exes back im just saying there is a glimpse of hope for all of you. im speaking to my first right now (i was her first also). if yall have seen any of my other posts yall will understand my background on this. i know i may not have her today, tomorrow, next week, next month or even next year but i feel like some day i will get her back but i have to give other girls a chance. everyone, give someone else a chance. i know it is hard but you have to. i love this girl with all my heart and it kills me to speak to her knowing she loves someone else. but at the same time i still have the feeling that everything will be okay. i mean, atleast she wants me in her life right? thats all i wanted to say... even though things look like shiznit right now and you will never get back with the one you love, one day your life might take an unexpected turn and send you back into the arms of that someone.
CailinPig Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 awww, thats lovely. the boyfriend who just broke up with me was my 'first' guy; first everything. i don't wanna be in any other relationship. i find it hard to meet guys. thanx for this post
kizik Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 Hmmm... if people thought like this, they'd never move on. I appreciate your post, but it would hurt me to have hope, not help.
northstar1 Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 ok well... a few days ago at work i was talking to my coworker when she brought up she was getting married. as of two weeks ago she was single. turns out this guy she is marrying is her first everything and she is his first everything. her first boyfriend, her first date, kiss, ;), etc. they broke up six years ago. though they both have been through many relationships, he has been married, they both have their own kids (he has 3 she has 1). he has already said he wants to adopt her child as his own. now im not saying all of you will ever get your exes back im just saying there is a glimpse of hope for all of you. im speaking to my first right now (i was her first also). if yall have seen any of my other posts yall will understand my background on this. i know i may not have her today, tomorrow, next week, next month or even next year but i feel like some day i will get her back but i have to give other girls a chance. everyone, give someone else a chance. i know it is hard but you have to. i love this girl with all my heart and it kills me to speak to her knowing she loves someone else. but at the same time i still have the feeling that everything will be okay. i mean, atleast she wants me in her life right? thats all i wanted to say... even though things look like shiznit right now and you will never get back with the one you love, one day your life might take an unexpected turn and send you back into the arms of that someone. Sure, according to that mythos, anything is possible. But I think you have to really treat it as if you will NEVER get back together. Their story has a nice ending, due to a myriad of circumstances falling into place and I don't want to stay that one shouldn't have hope - but for most of us, it wont' end up like that.
Author claycald Posted June 18, 2008 Author Posted June 18, 2008 yes as i had mentioned before give yourself a chance with someone else. see if you love the other person more than you love the other one. im not saying shut the door on everyone else. that isnt fair, not only to everyone else but to yourself. im just saying there is glimpse of hope out there but dont hold yourself back from moving forward.
Abomination Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Not to sound like a horse's ass here but this whole concept makes ZERO sense to me. Yes, there is "hope" that you might end up with your first love, get married, etc., but if you keep that hope in the back of your head, the other relationships in between will never stand a chance. It would be pointless to even bother with them. They're just passers-by who are helping you make the wait a bit easier... - A
lorilynne Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I hesitated to read this...afraid I'd be too bitter to enjoy it!!! I was right!!!
melodymatters Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 BS romance alert !!!! So, she was " single 2 weeks ago ?" That means that after 2 weeks, this guy is already talking about marriage and adopting her kids. I don't CARE if he was her first anything, the fact that they only re-hooked up 2 weeks ago, means that they have not had a current day to day relationship for very long ( understatement of the week) Neither of them sound very mature or balanced. I wish them luck, but this is real life kids, and when it starts that fast, it usually ends that fast too !
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