WOW i'm excited,surprised! Someone that had a crush on me tracked me down and confess

[ClaireReese]

First i would like to say hi to everyone here. I won't make it too long and hopefully you can give me an input.

 

Ok what happened to me is pretty unbelievable to be honest with you. I must say its weird because of the time it took (Have not seen this man in 10 years!)

 

Here is how it happened he told me that he decided to track me down using a private investigator for the last 4 months and then he finally found me. He went to my house but he found my sister who lives with me. He knows her too and he talked to her about the situation and then waited until i got home and then we talked.

When he introduced himself i didn't know who he was until we talked. Then i remembered but he looked nothing like he was in high school.I mean i remember who he was and i knew he liked me.He was ok looking in high school and i liked him, but now he looks Super Hot!

 

When he confessed to me he was very sincere and real.He said he still feels the same way after all those years.Like i said i was flattered like never before. We talked for a while and the time actually went by pretty quick.

We exchange numbers and will be meeting up again.

 

After he left my sister and i talked all night and we where stunned by this. My sister is very cynical and she can't figure out how this super hot,well dressed guy with money (My sister is shallow and could tell based on the clothes he was wearing, she's into fashion)

would still be interested in me after 10 years (No it's not a typo) 10 years. She said most guys like that are married or are *******s (Maybe he is but who knows)

He seemed very sweet and funny,and made me feel special.

 

I'm really looking forward to my next meeting with him. Do you think it's faith,destiny? Is it weird? Has anybody else had this happened to them? I'm just not sure what to make of this really.

 

Give me your opinions on this please guys or girls it does not matter.

[imbewildered]

Give me your opinions on this please guys or girls it does not matter.

 

OK, this is all exciting and a real buzz. THis guy has already made a mistake (i am not gonna tell you yet ), BUT he sure has endurance and sticking power. THis is a guy who has CONFIDENT PERSISTENCE which is a great quality in a man and he has the courage to risk rejection after all those years . HE did not know wheher you were still single, for all he knew you might be a soccer mom and carrying 30 lbs more than your graduation picture.

Now I am going to give YOU a warning. Do not take any advice that you get here which encourages you to play "hard to get" or "be unavailable" or "make him wait" .

You need to honestly consider whether you want a relationship with this man . Wait until the GLOW of being flattered has subsided and then start to THINK .

He will want to see you again and, assuming that he now still wants you, he will want to date you.

Ignore your sister's suspicions.

GO ahead and explore a connection with this guy with your EYES and EARS open.

 

NIce story.

[ClaireReese]

OK, this is all exciting and a real buzz.

Yes it is.

 

THis guy has already made a mistake (i am not gonna tell you yet ),

Tell me.

 

BUT he sure has endurance and sticking power. THis is a guy who has CONFIDENT PERSISTENCE which is a great quality in a man and he has the courage to risk rejection after all those years . HE did not know wheher you were still single, for all he knew you might be a soccer mom and carrying 30 lbs more than your graduation picture.

Yeah thats what me and my sister where talking about as well.

 

Now I am going to give YOU a warning. Do not take any advice that you get here which encourages you to play "hard to get" or "be unavailable" or "make him wait" .

You need to honestly consider whether you want a relationship with this man . Wait until the GLOW of being flattered has subsided and then start to THINK .

He will want to see you again and, assuming that he now still wants you, he will want to date you.

Ignore your sister's suspicions.

GO ahead and explore a connection with this guy with your EYES and EARS open.

 

NIce story.

 

Yeah i'm going to take it slow but not as much as usual. It' just all happens all of sudden and it overwhelms you. It's easy to get caught up in the moment. I just want it to be real and not get hurt.

 

Thanks for the response.

[audrey_1]

A friend of mine all the way back to elementary school found me on myspace. He said I was his biggest crush ever, thought I was "inaccessible" and other flattering things. He was not a popular kid. The shy one always in the back. I was involved, had a lot of friends.

 

We have been dating casually for over a year...long distance, and he stilll wants to be casual, to be friends.

 

His feelings for me in the beginning were sizzling, and now have cooled off while my feelings have grown.

 

It's a very uncomfortable situation.

 

I suggest taking it slowly, with your eyes and ears open as already suggested. Be careful of your heart.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

A private investigator?!? He showed up on your doorstep?!?

 

If he wasn't super hot you would have been tripping over yourself to call 911.

 

Ok, I get it, it is flattering. However, you need to take this thing slowly. He has an image of you from 10 years ago. An image which he has apparently fantasized about to the point he hired a PI to find you.

 

Image, fantasy.

 

I'm sure a lot has changed for you in the past 10 years. He's going to have to get to know the real person.

 

I do hope it works out, that would be cool. I just think you need to adopt a bit of your sister's healthy cynicism.

[imbewildered]

Yes it is.

 

 

It's easy to get caught up in the moment. I just want it to be real and not get hurt.

 

 

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How do you feel about him ?

Are you aware of any feelings of appreciation, admiration, attraction and so on OR are your feelings all based around being all 'doggy bowl' eyes, all warm and gooey and just carried away with the flattery of what he did and said.

[imbewildered]

A private investigator?!? He showed up on your doorstep?!?

 

If he wasn't super hot you would have been tripping over yourself to call 911.

 

 

A rather hysterical response I think.