Hullabaloo Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 Hi everyone. I've been dating this girl for close to two years now and its always been a LDR. I'm nineteen and she's twenty. I love her to death but all she does is complain about how lonely she is but never goes out of her way to see me (it's a two hour drive so it's not that bad) or even call to talk. I always shift my work and school schedule to make time and go see her but when i do she tells me she didn't take off of work and that its pointless to come see her. Sometimes i think she likes to be miserable. How do i tell her i want her to make more of an effort without making it sound like i don't think she's doing anything (even though i feel that way sometimes)?
jonesec Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 My advice to you would be to talk to her about how it feels when you go to visit her. Remind her that it probably makes her very happy and you would like to have that too. A LDR takes a lot of effort on both ends, and both of you need to feel that its worth it. If she isn't willing to make any sacrifices to come visit you then you might want to talk about what each of your intentions are.
jonesec Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 My advice to you would be to talk to her about how if feels when you go to visit her. Remind her that it probably makes her very happy and you would like to have that too. A LDR takes a lot of effort on both ends, and both of you need to feel that its worth it. If she isn't willing to make any sacrifices to come visit you then you might want to talk about what each of your intentions are.
jm842 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 im pretty much in the EXACT situation as u. except im 20 and shes 19. and we dont live 2 hours away from each other... more like 24 =(. u are very fortunate that she lives jus 2 hours away. if it was like that for me i would go see her like every weekend. i feel that both our gfs are very much alike. neither try as hard as we wished they would to see us. the thing about my gf is that too often she'll say she'll do something, but most of the time it never happens in that given time.
lily8656 Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Wow, only a two hour drive! I would love to be only a two hour drive away from my SO. Speaking from the woman's P.O.V. in an LDR, she probably is feeling very lonely. Without knowing her personality at all, maybe she is lonely to the extent of feeling down about the whole idea of being away from you. Has she made efforts in the past to visit you? How does she act in other aspect of the relationship - any different?
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