Author gummybear Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 Do not mistake my attitude for what I think you should do!!!! By all means, if you love him, fight for him. Let him make the decision on what he does with it and if he accepts you again be better to him. I would allow my ex back in, but her actions would have to be spot on instead of cheap ass talk. Ya feel me???? Well he did come back 1.5 months after I cheated. He took me back then left me a month after that telling me he can't get over what I did nor trust me again. I pleaded when he left me and 2 days later I pleaded again but he told me to let it go and move on and that it is over and he said he is not happy to be with me doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore . That was my wakeup call. Then 3 days after that I told him I love him with all my heart but that I can't expect him to ever forgive me or want to be with me because I know what I have done. I did all I can to make it work again. I think I want to have hope, but there is no hope. He made his decision and will probably stick to it for good. It has been NC for 11 days. His birthday is in one week and I do not know whether I should say happy bday to him or just NC it forever. I guess I'm mostly just posting here for moping purpose.
bish Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 Wow. What was the story here exactly? Difference is my ex would still talk to me if I contacted him, even when we were on a break after I broke up with him and confessed I cheated, he still talked to me (he refused to for the first week or so but then he became nice again). He still loves me and cares bout me, but when he is with me those thoughts of what I did to him in the past just creep up to him and makes him hate me. He can not accept what I did. He tried to, but he can't. He is still nice to me though at least. Wow! This guy cares about you, he is a nice guy, and he has someone that throws her cheating in his face? Boy, this guy needs to grow a set and leave you in the dust. He needs to find someone that won't play these games and try to stab him in the heart, then twist the knife by bragging to him that you cheated on him. Hopefully he will start thinking clearly and realize that is crap he doesn't need.
bish Posted June 20, 2008 Posted June 20, 2008 I think I want to have hope, but there is no hope. He made his decision and will probably stick to it for good. It has been NC for 11 days. His birthday is in one week and I do not know whether I should say happy bday to him or just NC it forever. You've done enough to him. Stay in NC and leave him be.
Author gummybear Posted June 20, 2008 Author Posted June 20, 2008 You've done enough to him. Stay in NC and leave him be. Yea I will probably do that. But I'm still curiuos, what happened with that girl who cheated on you? Did she want you back but you just completely ignored her?
sedgwick Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 I would very humbly suggest that if you're already cheating and lying after four months, he's probably lucky to have gotten away from you. It sounds like maybe the maturity level necessary for a committed relationship isn't there yet.
joejoechen Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 OK, 1.5 months is still good for you to bring him back. But it takes a bit more of patience, you can now stop pleading him back, making calls, e-mails or whatever. Try to build yourself up first, show confidence in yourself, act normaly, go out with your friends, mayb calling him just ONCE a week (yeah, easier said than done). But that's what you want to do. Let him know that you changed, not by telling him, let him REALIZE it, it may or may not work but better than you doing nothing, or worse still, pestering him, that will NEVER gonna work! I'll help u with all my best. Joe
bish Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 Yea I will probably do that. But I'm still curiuos, what happened with that girl who cheated on you? Did she want you back but you just completely ignored her? I didn't completely ignore her. I had to tell her to leave me alone.
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