Author Love_Forest Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 We were supposed to meet and he sent to me email but very late and I did not read it in time, I was at the meeting place and he did not show up and then i was calling him, he did not take the call and I became so angry..I went home and reading my email, again i was trying to call him and he did not take my call...I told to him by email that I was there waiting him and i was asking him why he did not call me....the next day I did not find any reply from him or call so I call him again he again did not take my call, and then i send to him email "I do not want to see in my life, you are not a person to trust you"..... so he never contact me i did not contact him too....but I miss him a lot..... The questions to were why he did not took my call or why he did not apologize.... actually now when i write here i think if I would give him time and not to call or email him that time.... I am not sure why he has no gf, I do not have any prove he is missing me.... In my opinion I was not clingy just i wish to say to him when he change the plan has to make sure I get the message and i will not waist my time waiting for nothing ... why was so difficult to take my calls? here is something I miss....
Author Love_Forest Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 in his email he suggested another time to meet....this is why I think it is my action made him to not contact me....but still...why was so difficult for him to take my calls?
joejoechen Posted June 21, 2008 Posted June 21, 2008 hey, don't regret your life.. try out what you think is right, I know sometimes it's hard to take actions but try it! who knows what lies ahead? Joe
Author Love_Forest Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 I am feeling I want to contact him, but I am scared of his rejection of not talking to me....since that time he did not pick up the call....I want to call him.... The pattern was "marked" once he did not take my calls... and there is my fear....
Author Love_Forest Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 I remember he was often telling me he likes me .........
Author Love_Forest Posted June 22, 2008 Author Posted June 22, 2008 I did not find and answer to my question to "to call not to not call" him by self..... and I really want to call him....to try to see if we can get back together..... not only in the "sex and the city" they went back but Charles and Camilla...(not sure if they are happy).....
alialui Posted June 22, 2008 Posted June 22, 2008 I don't really see you being confident yet. You seem to be in a great fear. I know you miss him, but accept the fact that you don't have him and already lost him. So, losing him again is not supposed to scare you cuz you didn't get him back yet. if you experience emotional rollercoaster whenever thinking about talking to him, keep working on being emotionally strong. even if you fail, it always worth it to try. if it's meant to be, he would wanna see you too ttyl sweetie
Author Love_Forest Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 I write here instead of calling him.... still thinking at him.....
Author Love_Forest Posted June 26, 2008 Author Posted June 26, 2008 I am ready to do it! to invite him for a coffee? or just simply to ask how are you?
alialui Posted June 26, 2008 Posted June 26, 2008 okay, I think it's better to start talking to him first. call him and if he doesn't pick up, leave him a sweet brief message asking him how he was doing and you just called him to say hi and wait until he calls. if he doesn't ever call you back, you can take it as a sign that he doesn't wanna talk to you and you are gonna have a clear closure. When he calls, be sweet, but try not to talk more than 15 minutes. try not to talk about fight or any bad memories. Talk about your new life and how happy you are. Let me know if you need more advice good luck:)
Author Love_Forest Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I was calling him!!!!!!!! after almost 1 year (10 mo) of NC. He took my call and we talked about 4 min, he tols to me shortly what is new on his side (he has a new car) and he was asking me about me (work, house, fun time). I was surprised to find out he has lust to talk to me and to not "abuse" our first talk, to keep it short I told to him if he wants to have a coffee together so we can talk more ...since he was asking so many questions about me... he said "yes, sure".... I need your advice.....what is your opinion... thank you! is there a chance? is he still interested in me?
alialui Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I can't say if he's still interested in you, but you'll find out gradually. but at least he doesn't have any bad feelings for you and sounded like he had missed you, too. have a light casual chitchat over coffee and don't talk about something serious and don't bring up anything from the past. it should be like you guys just met (you want to have a brand new relationship, right? your past relationship is dead. leave it be) no matter how much you want him, never ever do anything more than a kiss. don't think sleeping with him would remind him of love you once had. no guys like easy girls, even your ex! so act like a sweet breezy girl who's not clingy nor needy. you should be too eager either. BE CONFIDENT! if he asks about your new love life, be honest with him. just tell him i've been dating some guys, but none of it was serious. Tell me how it went. good luck!!
Author Love_Forest Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 how long should I wait his call? In case he does not call me should I call him? When? I had the feeling he expected me to say when to meet but I was not ready to say it....
alialui Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 wait for a week since the last time you guys talked. if he doesn't call by then, call him. and have a chitchat (don't bring up anything serious or anything related to the past relationship). after that, wait for a week again, if he doesn't say that he wants to meet you in person. try to call him around the same time and that is going to make him wait for your call. If he's not asking you out more than a month even though he isn't really busy, don't call him for 2 weeks. I think he's gonna call you if he's interested in. 'cuz he's used to getting calls for a month on the same day of week. if he doesn't call you by then, call him and ask him out for a coffee. he might change his mind after seeing you. but keep updating me and let me know how he's responding to your actions. no matter what, BE COOL AND PATIENT!! it's gonna happen if it's meant to be. you being obssessed with it would not change anything or make things even worse.
Author Love_Forest Posted June 29, 2008 Author Posted June 29, 2008 I cannot believe it!!!!! I put my add to find a golf partner and he was replying to my add. he does not know I am the one who has the add there. I know he is because of his email address... is it wise to reply to his reply at my add or leave it ... please advice... at the moment I am not able to think of anything.....
Author Love_Forest Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 Having a second chance of being reunited with him, is possible. I know it's been a long time, since you last saw him. But many women find a way, to see that man, they can not stop thinking about. I know you got angry with him, but we all make mistakes. Life is so short, it would be a great shame if you don't make contact with him, just to find out if he would be open to seeing you again. You never know! Maybe you could send him an email or sms message - just to say 'Hi!', play it cool to start with - see if he replies. I left my boyfriend a year ago, I wanted to travel - but he did'nt. Anyway when I got back home, he refused to see me or take my calls. Then, I found this book on getting your ex back. It worked for me, and I'm now reunited with my ex boyfriend. thank you for your post but I am not sure if you follow me ...I just contacted him by phone....so now I have to take the next step.....what is this? this is now... ....
Author Love_Forest Posted June 30, 2008 Author Posted June 30, 2008 I cannot believe it!!!!! I put my add to find a golf partner and he was replying to my add. he does not know I am the one who has the add there. I know he is because of his email address... is it wise to reply to his reply at my add or leave it ... please advice... at the moment I am not able to think of anything..... is it fate here? it has happen just in the week i was calling him!
Author Love_Forest Posted July 4, 2008 Author Posted July 4, 2008 I was calling him again today, as you said to me I keep the day. He said to meet next week for a coffee. I am so eager to meet him again. I miss him. I hope we have a chance to be back together....
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