ARDriver01 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 This one's probably very common... My new girlfriend and I made things official last night. We agreed after two weeks of seeing eachother to have the talk and so we're exclusivo now. She changed her Myspace profile to "in a relationship". I know this because when I asked her in a text what she was doing, she told me. Now! Here goes...Lol If I change mine. I'm going to be harrassed by the last girl I was with. Annnnd... I'll feel kind of like a man whore. I probably am one, having said that, I know that the last girl will call, and email, and text. She might even come out to my area! I don't think I'm being paranoid, she was really, really emphatuated. I already feel bad for hurting her feelings. I think it would be mean to publicly announce my new relationship. I'd like to wait a few months. If she wants me to change it and asks me why I haven't, would that be her trying to shove it in the last girls face? I'd really like to get some female input if possible on this one.
blind_otter Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Set your profile to private. Is your ex on your friends list? if so, why?
twice_shy Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 AR, If you weren't committed to the last girl you dated, whats the problem? You are no longer dating for whatever reason, so you shouldn't refrain from showing your current committed gf respect.
Author ARDriver01 Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 I suppose she is. I guess I could do that, like delete her and set my profile to private. I don't do the Myspace thing really. All my friends are there, I just don't really log on all the time. I haven't checked it in so long. Ha! I hope she deleted me. That would be better.
Jilly Bean Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 emphatuated. Is that like being "emphatically infatuated?" BO is right. Delete her and set your profile to private. Otherwise, the message you send to the new GF is that you are more concerned with the crazy ex than you are with her. But, perhaps you really AREN'T ready to move on? WDYT?
endlesstrains Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 Personally it would offend me if I was your GF and you outright refused to change it. My boyfriend's myspace and facebook accounts still say "single" which does bother me a little but I've never mentioned it to him. I know that if I said anything to him he would change it. I think he just doesn't think about it at all-- he didn't even notice that his myspace account said he was the wrong age until I pointed it out. It's not that big a deal really until she brings it up, but when she brings it up, I think it is disrespectful not to change it... it's not about shoving it in the other girl's face. It's about being committed and not being ashamed of being with her (which is how she might read it if you won't change it.)
missdeathwish Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 If you've had the talk and are official, and she's gone public, you should go public too. Don't worry about the ex. I wouldn't bother deleting her. She'll find out one way or another anyway. (Plus, deleting her might add insult to injury.)
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 You seem too concerned about your exgf more than your new gf. It should NOT matter what the ex thinks or feels. Make it so she can only see a limited portion of your facebook...Or you could just delete and block her since she is your ex.
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