northstar1 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Of the ex and the times you shared.............they seem to pop up way too frequently and unexpectedly and feel like little darts to my heart. From driving by a restaurant you both loved, to a song that comes up on the radio or ipod - to that sweater she left in your closet that you suddenly find months later. For me, it's even harder, because she's in a new country - so there are no reminders of us for her.
mollers Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Of the ex and the times you shared.............they seem to pop up way too frequently and unexpectedly and feel like little darts to my heart. From driving by a restaurant you both loved, to a song that comes up on the radio or ipod - to that sweater she left in your closet that you suddenly find months later. For me, it's even harder, because she's in a new country - so there are no reminders of us for her. Yep, they are killers. The restaurants, the songs (I can no longer listen to Radiohead which is so annoying as I love them )...and last night for some unknown reason a lovely memory popped into my head, right out of the blue and I cried myself to sleep....but got up again this morning and carried on with life. We'll get there, but in the meantime, yes, they cause sharp pain to the heart, and often when least expected.
littledream Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 We'll get there, but in the meantime, yes, they cause sharp pain to the heart, and often when least expected. I totally agree! It's strange how you could be doing something totally unrelated and them BAM - something triggers a memory. On Sunday it was actually sunny here and I just popped to the shop to pick up some milk -totally mundane, when I was suddenly overwhelmed with a memory of a sunny day my ex and I shared long ago. Needless to say, I just got out of the shop and back in my flat in time before I burst into tears. SILLY! I think going through the memories and reminicing are all part of the process of letting go, as painful as it is...tho I find getting rid of all the visual reminders in my bedroom helps a hell of a lot! That, and moving all my photos to a USB stick (sadly, I can't quite bring myself to delete all my photos quite yet)
mollers Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 On Sunday it was actually sunny here Lol, you must be in a better part of the UK than me then! But seriously, yes, I was reading a novel last night and in it, a relationship had broken down, and it triggered this memory of my ex one night, he was stroking my hair, and he thought I had fallen asleep and he whispered how much he loved me (he could never bring himself to say the words to my face, I never told him I heard him say it), and it flooded into my memory and I sobbed my heart out. I have removed all traces of him from my house but it doesn't get rid of the memories in your head.
CailinPig Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Ugh, I don't need reminders, he's in my head all day everyday. I'm kinda convinced he's set up a little home in my head at this stage!! I understand what yiz are sayin; same with me. My friends will be having a general conversation when, all of a sudden, I'll go : "awwww..." as it'll remind me of something we did or planned to do. Does anyone else do this crazy thing: if you find a receipt that you own, check to see if it's dated before or after your break up? Everything in my life is now seperated into pre- and post- break up. I feel sad everytime I have something from pre-break up. I want to be happy again. I've been sad since March. that's too long.
mollers Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Ugh, I don't need reminders, he's in my head all day everyday. I'm kinda convinced he's set up a little home in my head at this stage!! I understand what yiz are sayin; same with me. My friends will be having a general conversation when, all of a sudden, I'll go : "awwww..." as it'll remind me of something we did or planned to do. Does anyone else do this crazy thing: if you find a receipt that you own, check to see if it's dated before or after your break up? Everything in my life is now seperated into pre- and post- break up. I feel sad everytime I have something from pre-break up. I want to be happy again. I've been sad since March. that's too long. Damn I do the receipt thing. And it drives me crazy.
Author northstar1 Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Ugh, I don't need reminders, he's in my head all day everyday. I'm kinda convinced he's set up a little home in my head at this stage!! I understand what yiz are sayin; same with me. My friends will be having a general conversation when, all of a sudden, I'll go : "awwww..." as it'll remind me of something we did or planned to do. Does anyone else do this crazy thing: if you find a receipt that you own, check to see if it's dated before or after your break up? Everything in my life is now seperated into pre- and post- break up. I feel sad everytime I have something from pre-break up. I want to be happy again. I've been sad since March. that's too long. YES !!! I thought I was the only crazy one who did this. Or, I'll think back to a tv show I watched, or a movie, or concert etc and think about when the date was and it also feels sad.
miss_28 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 YES !!! I thought I was the only crazy one who did this. Or, I'll think back to a tv show I watched, or a movie, or concert etc and think about when the date was and it also feels sad. I do it too!!! lolol... without even meaning too!
sunshinegirl Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I do it too!!! lolol... without even meaning too! Yep, me too. He returned a bunch of stuff that belonged to me, mostly books... and several books had airline stubs in them from trips we took together - with his name on the boarding pass. I haven't been able to throw those away yet. I also have one voicemail from him that I can't delete yet. I don't listen to it, at all, but I guess it's my one last remaining tie to him. I've done this with all my exes - I have never been able to delete those damn messages til six months later. Call me weird.
roghornio Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 I do it too!!! lolol... without even meaning too! I did this aswell… same with old work emails bizzarly. Weird. I wonder why people do this.
Recommended Posts