VintageGardenia Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I am totally confused by this guy I am seeing. First off, I know for sure, he's the type of guy that very rarely shares what he is actually feeling. With most people he is very reserved. I feel like he puts up lots of differant fronts,and I have gotton to the point when I know he is being himself and when he is putting up a front. He's got real low self esteem, and my friend said that they had heard he might have been hurt in the past.We have been dating for three months now ( which is longer then he has dated most women recently). He tells me he does not want a girlfriend, yet has been seeing me exclusively all this time, and when he sees me with other guys, he has a tendency to be deeply jealous, though he will not admit it , though its obvious on the from on his face and the feedback from my male friends. He's told contradicts himself all of the time, like he will say he does not want a girlfriend because he wants to date other women--yet only dates me. He says he only dates women who pursue him--but he says that does not happen that often. He said at one point his last girlfriend at one point was many years ago--and at another point he his last girlfriend was two years before. I don't get it. Anyone offer some insight?!
imbewildered Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I don't get it. Anyone offer some insight?! No insight, but I am sure that I have dated all his sisters. Loonies. This guy is not a keeper. Your are being drawn in by "the challenge" and the uncertainty - the drama of not KNOWING what he is thinking and feeling. THis is your own little soap opera.
A.G.Doren Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I am totally confused by this guy I am seeing. First off, I know for sure, he's the type of guy that very rarely shares what he is actually feeling. With most people he is very reserved. I feel like he puts up lots of differant fronts,and I have gotton to the point when I know he is being himself and when he is putting up a front. He's got real low self esteem, and my friend said that they had heard he might have been hurt in the past.We have been dating for three months now ( which is longer then he has dated most women recently). He tells me he does not want a girlfriend, yet has been seeing me exclusively all this time, and when he sees me with other guys, he has a tendency to be deeply jealous, though he will not admit it , though its obvious on the from on his face and the feedback from my male friends. He's told contradicts himself all of the time, like he will say he does not want a girlfriend because he wants to date other women--yet only dates me. He says he only dates women who pursue him--but he says that does not happen that often. He said at one point his last girlfriend at one point was many years ago--and at another point he his last girlfriend was two years before. I don't get it. Anyone offer some insight?! A friend of mine dated a similar guy and they came to love each other very much. She was drawn in by the challenge of drawing him out. In the long run they didn't stay together, but he didn't hurt or abuse her and they are still good friends to this day.
RavenHair Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 This guy is not a keeper. Your are being drawn in by "the challenge" and the uncertainty - the drama of not KNOWING what he is thinking and feeling. THis is your own little soap opera. I agree. Put your jack hammer away and move on to someone who doesn't have these issues. YOU cannot break his wall down, he has to do that himself. If you stay around and keep trying, more than likely, it will end up beng a waste of your time. In the end, you'll end up hurt and upset. You might as well cut your losses now and move on.
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