xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I feel like I'm sabotaging my dates. Or my would-be dates. There are a couple of guys who are interested, but I keep turning them down. If it were a few months back I would asked the date and time. But now the words that I can utter are " I'm busy", or " sorry, I can't". Seriously have no idea what's going with me.
Jilly Bean Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Sounds like one of two things: 1 - you haven't met anyone date-worthy, so you are not enthused. 2 - you are not in the head space for dating. Period.
the_blur Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Seriously have no idea what's going with me. Anyone wanna take this one? I have an idea what's going on, how about you say yes? Sorry to have to involve captain obvious here but... Seems somewhat self evident if you have a guy who says he wants to take you out for a good time, there's no reason not to go, one date doesn't mean you will end up in bed with these hopeful fellows. Alternatively, just buy a wedding band for yourself (or start hitting the krispy kremes) and avoid the attention altogether! (that's actually what I would do if I were you) ...And buy lots of catfood while it's cheap.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Anyone wanna take this one? I have an idea what's going on, how about you say yes? Sorry to have to involve captain obvious here but... Seems somewhat self evident if you have a guy who says he wants to take you out for a good time, there's no reason not to go, one date doesn't mean you will end up in bed with these hopeful fellows. Alternatively, just buy a wedding band for yourself (or start hitting the krispy kremes) and avoid the attention altogether! (that's actually what I would do if I were you) ...And buy lots of catfood while it's cheap. :lmao::lmao: I've always wanted to own a cat, but the wedding band is a bit too much isn't it? It's not the one night stand I'm worried about, but I've had a bad first date experience where the guy didn't call me back. Am I psychologically scarred from that?
I am who I am Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Sounds to me like your "Just not that into him (them)" The flip-side of the coin. You are not ready to date right now. Either way, you are doomed to a life alone if you are reeling on not being contacted after a first date (however long ago).
the_blur Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Am I psychologically scarred from that? Just one guy didn't call you back!? That's like bunny slope rejection territory for any man. You have no idea what we have to go through, esp when you are a sentimental guy, it's very painful and plays hell with your self esteem. I don't mean to belittle your situation or feelings but suck it up and get back on the horse princess.
imbewildered Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Just one guy didn't call you back!? That's like bunny slope rejection territory for any man. You have no idea what we have to go through, esp when you are a sentimental guy, it's very painful and plays hell with your self esteem. I don't mean to belittle your situation or feelings but suck it up and get back on the horse princess. Priceless. Apparently some women cannot cope with a man not falling for them after ONE date.IT happens princess, it happens all the time . Get over it and get back into your velvet lined coach.,
Kamille Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Edit: sorry I thought you were some one else... You know, you might just be feeling too comfortable. Take a few chances, go out on a few dates, have a good time. It doesn't mean you have to marry the guys.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Just one guy didn't call you back!? That's like bunny slope rejection territory for any man. You have no idea what we have to go through, esp when you are a sentimental guy, it's very painful and plays hell with your self esteem. I don't mean to belittle your situation or feelings but suck it up and get back on the horse princess. Omg I know I know, but that scene just replays in my head everytime someone asks me out.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Edit: sorry I thought you were some one else... You know, you might just be feeling too comfortable. Take a few chances, go out on a few dates, have a good time. It doesn't mean you have to marry the guys. I guess I just don't have the mindset for it. I have a tendency to fall too quickly and fast. It's like voluntarily running towards a minefield.
Kamille Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I guess I just don't have the mindset for it. I have a tendency to fall too quickly and fast. It's like voluntarily running towards a minefield. I hear you, I do the same thing. Which makes me think I should figure out how not to fall too fast. I know, I'll start a thread!
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