headdown Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Hi, I'll try my best to keep this post brief so there isn't any boring dragged story. ----- I'm 22, she is 21. We've been dating 1 month and a half. Our first kiss was brief for about 3 seconds, about 1 month into dating. However the same night, we made out for like an hour. But she said no when I asked her to come to my place, knowing well what I actually meant. Then most recently, one month and half into dating, we made out again. This time we explored each other a lot more, but mainly just the chest area. Then we talked about where we are at. This is where it gets confusing. I ask her if she's looking for a relationship. She is not sure, I also tell her I'm not sure. Then I ask her if she's looking for a fling. She says no. Then I ask her if she's seeing other people. She says no and she asks if I am. I say no. Then I ask her if she'd care if I'm seeing other people. She says I don't know, then she asks the same. I say maybe. Then I ask her what are we? She says we're just dating and she still don't know me well yet. Then I ask her to come to my place. She says she's not that type of girl, which makes no sense to me because we've seen each other for month and a half, about one or two times a week. The worst part for me is that every time we make out, it feels like she's slipping further and further away from me. She calls me less, texts me less and I see her less. But whenever we make out or kiss, it's always a mutual reaction that goes on for almost an hour long. ---- So here's my question. Why is she doing this? Is she playing hard to get or is she thinking that after I sleep with her, I'll leave her. Does she want to find out how much I like her first? Truth is, I really like her and I'm actually looking for a relationship. I just don't want to be the one to say it when all she's giving me is "I'm not sure" after I ask her if she wants to try a relationship. And the fact she's calling and texting me less is really bugging the hell out of me. And even tho I want to call her and text her more, I really don't want to because I don't want to be the only one who's texting and calling all the time, I want things to be mutual, not one sided. What should I do?
browneyedgurl Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 This sounds similar to my issue that I am facing with the guy I have been seeing.. and the thing is I am 21 and he is 22... lol. We began dating in May. and one night we got physical and that's where it became a sticky situation. I asked him since we messed around what we were and he said "i'm not sure i will have to give it some thought. I have been so confused b/c i was for sure he may want a relationship. But Idk anymore I feel as if I have been used and abused but anyways.. I have talked and talked to my friends about my issue... b/c i have been really confused And to answer your question.... since you feel like she is slipping further and further away, maybe its time to talk with her personally about how you feel about her contacting you less and less. If she doesn't want to talk about it or tries to avoid your question, then something is up and its time to move on. That is what my friends have been telling me with my situation. And I want to be able to talk to the guy I have been seeing about some issues too. Like how he doesn't like to talk on the phone and I just recently asked him if we could talk on the phone more and he said that "we will discuss that later lol", he put it exactly that way and signed off. But good luck
SS49 Posted June 18, 2008 Posted June 18, 2008 a month and a half of casual dating and 2 make out sessions isn't enough for most girls to have sex with you! I'm not comfortable getting that intimate until I'm in a committed relationship, which is most likely what the girl your dating is looking for before getting between the sheets with you. Also if you guys can't openly talk about sex, you shouldn't be having it.
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