amymarieca Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Okay, so this is basically a rant and I need some comfort. I am a member of a dating website. I've been on a few dates here and there. I have met some really nice people, but nothing ever came of it. So I had been chatting it up with this really good looking guy and we agreed to meet for drinks. I gave him the exact address of the restaurant. He even called to confirm the day of. I get a call at the time we are supposed to meet and he says he will be there in 5 mins. So I am standing in front of the place....10 minutes goes by....20 minutes....I ended up waiting there for an hour! The guy didn't even show up! The funny thing is, he had my cell number but never gave me his, so I couldn't call him. Is this a classic case of "drive by and if the person is ugly drive away"? I know you are going to say that it is good I didn't date him because clearly he is a shallow bastard. He could have at least had some common courtesy and respect for my time and showed up to chat and buy me a drink. Why do people do this? Seriously!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 It's so rude and disrespectful. People feel that the anonymity of the internet allows them to behave like beasts. If it makes you feel any better, this happened to a friend of mine recently. I had to go join her at the restaurant cuz the dude never showed up. She is tall, blonde, big boobs, basically pretty hot. And she's my friend, so of course she's cool too. She felt bad about it, but I told her to order another martini and be done with it
jerbear Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 That is so wrong what the guy did. Honestly I did consider that once, she was so annoying during the "date" and at the end of the night I was happy to just foot the bill 100% to end the date. It is good to see the other end.
Jilly Bean Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 That is just SO horrible! I don't understand how people can be so discourteous. If it's any comfort, I once had a blind date. We met at a casino as he wanted to play black jack, and I was there for, I dunno, the broad in the tight dress? Anyhoo... After a few hours. He excused himself to the restroom. I NEVER saw him again. He never came back! So, Im not sure if its worse to have a date not show up at all, or leave in the MIDDLE of a date. Anyhow, hope my story makes you feel better by comparison.
the_blur Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Is this a classic case of "drive by and if the person is ugly drive away"? Possibly. Did he know beforehand what you looked like? You mentioned he was a good looking guy, then say he was a shallow bastard ... just sayin' sounds a bit like cookware calling each other different colors.
imbewildered Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Is this a classic case of "drive by and if the person is ugly drive away"? Sadly, this is exactly what happens to both men and women. If fact women flake much more frequently than men and think nothing of it. At the least he could have called you and lied about being in a car wreck.
missdeathwish Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Ugh. What a jerk. I don't know why people do this. FYI, you only have to wait for 15 minutes after the agreed-upon time to be polite. I understand waiting a bit more for a first date, but unless you're picking someone up from the airport/train station and their flight is delayed, there's no reason to wait more than 20 minutes.
A.G.Doren Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 My mom always told me half-an-hour was good. But then she hasn't dated since before cell phones.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 My mom always told me half-an-hour was good. But then she hasn't dated since before cell phones. Next time ask for their number as well. Then spam them with telemarketers.
BrooklynBridge Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 It's so rude and disrespectful. People feel that the anonymity of the internet allows them to behave like beasts. If it makes you feel any better, this happened to a friend of mine recently. I had to go join her at the restaurant cuz the dude never showed up. She is tall, blonde, big boobs, basically pretty hot. And she's my friend, so of course she's cool too. She felt bad about it, but I told her to order another martini and be done with it Hey - is that friend of yours coming up to New York anytime soon?? I wouldn't stand up a hot girl like that.......
Phoenix11 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 That is just SO horrible! I don't understand how people can be so discourteous. If it's any comfort, I once had a blind date. We met at a casino as he wanted to play black jack, and I was there for, I dunno, the broad in the tight dress? Anyhoo... After a few hours. He excused himself to the restroom. I NEVER saw him again. He never came back! So, Im not sure if its worse to have a date not show up at all, or leave in the MIDDLE of a date. Anyhow, hope my story makes you feel better by comparison. Wow & Ouch. Did you have any idea the date wasn't going well before he disappeared? Did you ever contacted him again to tell him what a jerk he was?
refurb Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 What a jerk. Even if he called back I wouldn't even entertain talking to him. There is a certain level of decency that every human deserves and he couldn't even muster that up. RF
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Hey - is that friend of yours coming up to New York anytime soon?? I wouldn't stand up a hot girl like that....... Hahaha! She's dating a really nice, cool guy now.
Jilly Bean Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Wow & Ouch. Did you have any idea the date wasn't going well before he disappeared? Did you ever contacted him again to tell him what a jerk he was? Well, he was rather odd in person, and definitely seemed "out-matched". I caught him in a few lies (just little stuff, like saying he grew up in Manhattan, but when asked where exactly, he mentioned a part of Queens - lol), but I never acted like I knew. He seemed very nervous, buy beyond that, I NEVER had a guy walk out in the middle of a date and not come back! And no, I never contacted him again, and he never contacted me either. Point of the story for the OP is that I happen to be a pretty woman, so don't assume that this guy did a drive-by and blew you off because of your looks. I would bet he never showed at all. I once did stand up a blind date. We were meeting at a restaurant across the street from my loft, too! But, I got into this heavy ass convo with my ex, which lasted into the date time, and by the time I was done, I had NO desire to meet him. This was in the early days of cell phones, too, so I didn't have his number to even call him! I left him a vm at home with some BS excuse. We ended up meeting soon afterwards, and ended up dating for months - lol. Again, point is, you can be stood up for NO reason having to do with you...
Author amymarieca Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Possibly. Did he know beforehand what you looked like? You mentioned he was a good looking guy, then say he was a shallow bastard ... just sayin' sounds a bit like cookware calling each other different colors. Yes we had exchanged many pictures and talked on webcam, so we knew what to expect. Good looking and shallow bastard are two different terms. One refers to appearance and the other refers to personality. Yes, at first I thought he was a very good looking, but knowing his behaviour I consider him to be shallow. He may still in fact look nice, but sucks as a person. Just a little update for everyone: he still has not called. I sent him an email with a return receipt. He read it and did not respond. I guess "no answer" is my answer- ha ha. That's okay though. I am not going to spend any more time dwelling on this guy since he didn't even bother to give me the time of day. He doesn't deserve my grief! P.S. Thanks everyone for sharing your stories. I makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one!
sb129 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 When he called your cell, did he withhold his number? What a jerk. Bullet dodged. But sorry to hear that it happened that way. Hope you meet someone else nice soon.
CaliGuy Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 My rule is 15 minutes. I am surprised you waited for an hour. 15 minutes, no call??? SEE YA! (And no, you won't get a second chance for a date).
A.G.Doren Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 More than likely his reasons for not showing have more to do with his own problems than you, never worry about this, just move on.
the_blur Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Ok, I think the guy was a douche. You were in the right on this.
Author amymarieca Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 When he called your cell, did he withhold his number? What a jerk. Bullet dodged. But sorry to hear that it happened that way. Hope you meet someone else nice soon. Yes, on my caller ID it just said "Private" so I had no idea how to reach him.
D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 What a creep! Did you guys exchange any pics before meeting? Do you know what he looks like? Perhaps he saw you and thought you were out of his league- got nervous and bailed!
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