D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I have been so testy lately! A little background: My business went bankrupt last month and I had to sell my beloved loft to pay off 85,000 of personal loans I sunk into my business in order to avoid claiming personal bankruptcy on top of the Inc. bankruptcy. I absolutely love my loft- but I couldn't afford to stay here after losing my business. It has been a personal heartbreak for me to leave this place I have found so much solace in... Anyway- to the drama. There is an older woman who lives in the building (about 70 years old) that takes it upon herself to know everyone's business and offer unsolicited advice and opinion on everything and anything. She means well- but she is annoyingly self righteous and nosey. I have only told my close friend in the building that I am leaving- because quite frankly, the circumstances are quite embarrassing for me and I just want to keep things on the down low for personal reasons. It turns out that nosey grandma knows the real estate agent that brought the client in- so she knows my unit is sold, however I asked her to allow me to let people know about it and NOT TO TELL ANYONE. There was an owner's condo meeting scheduled for tonight on our patio- and all week my nosey neighbour has been telling me she thinks I should come and say my good-bye's to everyone. I told her politely over and over again that I didn't want to go to the meeting, that I would say my good-bye's on my own... but she kept pressing. I went so far as to tell her I just wanted to handle this privately because it was upsetting to me. She knocked on my door AGAIN this afternoon as I was packing and told me she was going to put a burger on the bbq for me. She came at the wrong time and caught me crying as I was packing (she caught me off guard). I told her AGAIN... I didn't want to face people- it was far to upsetting for me. So.... the condo meeting was at 6pm. At 6:15... she starts ringing my buzzer... I don't answer. She rings again, and again... Finally, I answer the buzzer and she tells me to come downstairs. I go downstairs and the whole building is on the patio socializing. People immediately start telling me how sorry they am I had to sell- she had announced it at the meeting even after I told her not to. I was livid...!!! Then she turns to me and says "oh, great, you're here- people really want to say good-bye to you and we all thought this would be a great opportunity".... I politely said no thank you and turned around and went upstairs...fuming! She came running after me with a plate and a burger on it and knocked on my door AGAIN... This time I answered and freaked out on her, told her to mind her own *****ng business in the future, called her nosey and slammed the door in her face. I was actually in a rage. I'd had enough of the "nosey" and exploded. This is a woman who has knocked on my door when I have had friends over and asked me if her 35 year old recluse daughter could come to my gathering because she has no friends.... She's just never mindful of how much she crosses the line and today, I lost it. Still- I feel conflicted now. I should probably feel more compassion for her- but it's been building for a while. I completely lost my composure tonight. I am now wondering if I over reacted and should apologize...or just move out the back door and say nothing. I don't like losing my composure like that, regardless of the circumstances. Do you guys think I should apologize? I am just not sure if this is an over reaction, or I am entitled to my breakdown. It's sometimes hard to tell when you are so close to the situation. She means well- she's not evil... just imposing her own will on others. She's been pulling crap like this for the entire 3 years I have lived here- and she does it with everyone. Everyone else just lets it go.... but not me...not today. Today, D-Lish went angry pms rambo on granny's ass.
jerbear Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I think she was trying to be nice and nosey. It is part of her generation and nature. My grandpa does that all the time! Wants to know, blah blah. I don't agree that she told everyone that you had to sell. In all honesty, she helped you get out versus staying inside and being down on yourself. I don't think you should apologize just yet, maybe the last day or just let it be. I would just let it be.
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 I think she was trying to be nice and nosey. It is part of her generation and nature. My grandpa does that all the time! Wants to know, blah blah. I don't agree that she told everyone that you had to sell. In all honesty, she helped you get out versus staying inside and being down on yourself. I don't think you should apologize just yet, maybe the last day or just let it be. I would just let it be. Well, I truly am normally nice to her even though everyone else ignores her out of frustration. I just really wanted to handle the sale and good-bye's myself...and couldn't have been more firm with her about that. I am still pissed she ignored my plea and announced it in public. A new guy moved in last week- and he is really cute, but very short. She asked him outright if he was gay because he was "too well groomed and short to be straight".... I thought he was going to cry (he's straight)... so, she does mean well- but she is also inappropriate. The day I moved in she knocked on my door with a bottle of wine- walked into my place and started looking around- poking around boxes with her cane, and even walked into my bedroom!
carhill Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 It may sound stupid but, someday, you'll miss her No one is perfect. Don't beat up on yourself. Think of all the good karma you've spread around....
Event Horizon Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Regardless, don't feel bad. I wouldn't be surprised if she was doing this to hurt you. Even if she wasn't, she'd crossed the line enough times to have gotten what she deserved. E..H
jerbear Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 PMS Rambo is an interesting concept. She must be a squirter... Hey D, you're still delicious.
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 It may sound stupid but, someday, you'll miss her No one is perfect. Don't beat up on yourself. Think of all the good karma you've spread around.... Lol. I will miss things about her. This crossed the line today though. I'm still very, very angry she ignored my wishes and took it upon herself to tell everyone in my building something I asked her not to say. My close friend came buy just now and told me that the minutes of the meeting started and she interrupted and said she wanted to make an announcement... then told everyone about my circumstances and selling price and that it was a "sad time for me".... he then spoke up and said I had wanted to keep that private... to which she responded "well, she says that... but I think she could use our support". Okay- yes- she means well.... but it's not her place to interfere in that kind of way.
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 PMS Rambo is an interesting concept. I might have made an interesting 5 second movie with my outburst... then it was right back to the 16 Candles kind of drama...which, well- went is better confined to the 80's. And- thanks jerbear....
xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Well, Im sorry you lost your loft, but your anger was well justified. She had no right to poke around in your business, no matter how much respect you should have for an elder. But I do think that you should apologize on the last day, so at least you won't always have that moment nagging at you.
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Well, Im sorry you lost your loft, but your anger was well justified. She had no right to poke around in your business, no matter how much respect you should have for an elder. But I do think that you should apologize on the last day, so at least you won't always have that moment nagging at you. That's probably what I will do... Once I have cooled down. She really is a clueless woman. I am still angry as hell at her today though...
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