littledream Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Hey everyone! I thought I'd lighten the mood a little and wonder what people are doing to cope with their break ups? Its strange, but I never thought I'd be an emotional eater. But I've found myself reaching for food (and alcohol) for comfort. And gained 2 inches on my waist! So here I am, going on a eating-healthier-cut-out-the-excess kinda diet to get myself feeling better, healthwise! How about you guys? Any tips on keeping healthy?
porter218 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Going to the gym is a great therapy for break-ups.
kizik Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Doing whatever I can. It's tough. I play guitar and sing at open mics, but it's usually without friends, so it's bittersweet. Going to school. Reading. Hanging out with anyone I can.
mollers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Joined the gym (only been once so far, pathetic!); reading lots of books; buying myself nice things and generally pampering myself. Booked a holiday too.
v33 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Ah the break-up diet....I am glad I lost the weight but not happy about how I lost it. Starvation for about 3 weeks. Just couldn't eat. Since the split, I have : Gym, but going infrequently, upping that this week. Running, even less frequently...going to try for 3x this week. Eating less... probably not enough though. Trying to be healthy. I do breakfast right at least. On the down side : Started drinking more. At least 1-2 a day, which I never used to do. Sometimes more but rarely get drunk. I need to cut out booze unless there is an occasion to drink. Unfortunately in my life there is generally something going on where drinking is taking place. Smoking more than I would like. That's a hard one to kick and I am ashamed of myself for not stopping. We all know what we have to do to be healthy. The question is more "How do we get motivated to do these things?" Well, you have to decide you are worth it. Picture how your life and health will be in 3-6 months if you do the RIGHT thing, and then picture how it will be if you continue what you are doing. If you don't like the look of the future, then you simply have to do what you know is right. Sometimes we don't want to, but we just do it anyways. Motivation is great when you have it, and you should use it, but when it isn't present you must rely on your will to get things done.
fran82 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 hey littledream, great thread too, its great to see some positivity ive actually been going to the gym less since and eating more! lol! but hell if im gona beat myself up about it! i wont let it get outa hand tho, gym memberships damn expensive! i'll get back into the gym soon, ive just havent got the time cause im too busy doing things trying not the think of my ex! lol! i completely landscaped my mums front garden, labour and all! laid a patio and im only a wee girlie thing! but i did it all on my own! (sorry to boast) but im proud, its helped me move on! took my aggression out on the old lawn! great therapy!
kizik Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Well, you have to decide you are worth it. Picture how your life and health will be in 3-6 months if you do the RIGHT thing, and then picture how it will be if you continue what you are doing. You ever run into people you haven't seen in months or years... and they're f*cking FAT? There is no way in the name of Allah I am going to look worse b/c of some THING that has transpired in my life. Great point V.
mollers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 You ever run into people you haven't seen in months or years... and they're f*cking FAT? There is no way in the name of Allah I am going to look worse b/c of some THING that has transpired in my life. Great point V. LOL, yes.
Author littledream Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 i completely landscaped my mums front garden, labour and all! laid a patio and im only a wee girlie thing! but i did it all on my own! (sorry to boast) but im proud, its helped me move on! took my aggression out on the old lawn! great therapy! You landscaped your mums front garden....SERIOUSLY! Wooooow! That's mad! LOL! But that's a great way to get the aggression and negativity out! Too bad I only got a ruddy balcony!
trulysomething Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Ugh...I gained sooooo much weight in the past with a breakup. I'm talking like 70 pounds (over a few years obviously)...but I'm working on all that now and since my last breakup (a few months ago..although we still talk/cuddle/etc) I am aiming to get in great shape for the fall.
fran82 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 LD, yeah, it was hard work, but it was so much fun! and i got nice small girlie muscles on my arms from doing it! i know what you mean, my own front yard is about 1 foot by 3, so i decided to tackle my mums! ask your friends and family! tell them you dont needing paid for it, it can be their christmas and birthday presents for the whole year! lol! you get over your ex, they get a pretty garden!
Author littledream Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 Keep at the weight loss goal! If that's what you want to do then go for it! I'm thoroughly into I'm-gonna-look-so-damn-amazing-that-my-ex-is-gonna-regret-letting-me-go kinda feeling (LOL). Can you tell I'm amidst the anger phase of my grieving process
sunshinegirl Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I lost 15 pounds post-breakup, sending me into underweight territory. My appetite is finally back, and I'm starting to crave sweets/fat. I'm not really trying to control it right now, as I really should gain back that weight. Eventually I'll start eating better. I am very very slowly getting back into the exercise routine. It is such a shame this breakup leveled me so badly: I'm normally really active, between running, yoga, and climbing. But when I went 3 weeks without eating...well, I lost both motivation and strength to do anything. And, oh yeah. I'm drinking more. Not that I'm a big drinker, but I've had more cosmos and glasses of wine in the last few weeks than normal.
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