fran82 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 since we're on the coping forum, i thought id start a motivational thread, (sorry if theres already ones just like it) so there can be a place where everyone can post their personal achievements/goals/plans, their motivations that are helping them get through these hard times! ive just taking my third driving lesson learning was so easy to put off because i had my ex to tend to, not anymore! im learning for me! and i'll be damned if he thinks im gonna tell him! its my personal goal! so come on, celebrate and share your personal milestones!
littledream Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Cool thread! I mentioned it earlier in my own thread, but I'm trying to be healthier. One huge milestone for me was that I quit smoking. I wasn't a heavy smoker, but during extreme times of emotional stress I smoke like there's no tommorow. But when I realize just how self destructive (and expensive) it was to light up, I decided that I needed to change for ME (like you said). So instead of grabbing a cig when I'm feeling bad because of him, tried to find healthier ways to cope.
mollers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 I've booked a holiday that he wouldn't have gone on.
Author fran82 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 nice one guys! thats excellent! doesn't it feel great to take the control back!? LD thats amazing you quit, its not an easy thing to do! yey! where you off to on holiday Mollers? isn't it great to indulge in the things you love to do!
mollers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 nice one guys! thats excellent! doesn't it feel great to take the control back!? LD thats amazing you quit, its not an easy thing to do! yey! where you off to on holiday Mollers? isn't it great to indulge in the things you love to do! I am going to Turkey with my son. My ex would only go off the beaten track (e.g. beach huts in Goa) where there wouldn't be people with families, which was cool, we enjoyed it, but for my son it is nice to have other children to play with. My ex never compromised so now we are going on a holiday for me and my son.
Author fran82 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 thats great! good for you! turkey is great, marmaris is good for familes i hear, i went to gumbet a few years back, but its a bit of a clubby area, you know young free and single!, those will be the days again! its a great idea, now you've got me thinking about holidays! oh life has just begun!
carrie3107 Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 Im going to go back to college - hopefully Accountancy part time Ive started the gym - Yet again In process of changing job Going to Amsterdam (March for my brothers 40) Going to Spain next year
Nevermind Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 I buy stuff for me. I didn't do that for a while, because an LDR is expensive and well...I spoiled him on christmas and valentines day. Did I mention that he didn't even call on my b-day in January? Yeah. So, now I have some nice sunglasses and am bidding on a cool Fuerstenberg Bikini on ebay. I can eat and cook whatever I like without thinking that he would not approve of the food or make fun of the cooking. Lots of small things, really. No big milestone yet. Maybe therapy, but that doesn't work out so well.
justaman99 Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Entire new wardrobe? Career is absolutely great? Social life better than ever? Apartment and clutter and junk I never used gone? 3 dates in a week where I actually didn't even think of her? Still think of her sometimes though. Hope she's doin alright but it's not my number one thought in my mind anymore. -Just
sunshinegirl Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 Eating again. Starting voice lessons next week. But crying while I type because I've just hit one of those troughs.
iluvpink Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 I just got a job after being a stay at home mum for 13 years. Start July 1 and can't wait...Yeehah!!!!!!! My new life with my kids is about to begin...
kizik Posted June 19, 2008 Posted June 19, 2008 My personal coping milestone of the moment, OP, was three days ago when I received an email response from the ex. Through her words and tone she made it clear that she was excited and happy, and that these feelings had nothing to do with me; they had to do with changes in her life. Since Sunday, I've finally shed all hopes or dreams of us ending up together somewhere down the line. And this loss of hope has allowed me to pursue finding the new me, which is really the OLD me, before her.
Author fran82 Posted June 21, 2008 Author Posted June 21, 2008 Since Sunday, I've finally shed all hopes or dreams of us ending up together somewhere down the line. And this loss of hope has allowed me to pursue finding the new me, which is really the OLD me, before her. congratulations kizik! sounds like your really coming through it now! I just got a job after being a stay at home mum for 13 years. Start July 1 and can't wait...Yeehah!!!!!!! My new life with my kids is about to begin... thats great iluvpink! i hope it all goes well for you! isnt it great how we're trying our hardest to get happy again! i went out last night for a friends birthday(boy do i feel rough today!) and i noticed for the first time is 7 weeks, that i would consider trying to find someone new, if even just to chat to 4 the night! it was the first time i noticed myself noticing the guys around me, thinking oh he's cute, and he's cute and he's cute! lol! i never did talk to anyone, but it was the noticing that made me realise how much i've moved on
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