loveandlaugh88 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 I'm sure many of you deal with the confusion that I am experiencing right now. I'm in love with this wonderful guy and we have the most perfect relationship. He has mentioned a couple times that we're probably not going to stay together forever, however, and that makes me scared that I am going to be heartbroken once again. We're young, both in college..and have been dating for less than a year. My boyfriend is so perfect for me that I could definitely see us being together for a while and have even thought about marriage. I know marriage isn't something I should be thinking about when we're so young and haven't been dating for that long, but its hard to stay with someone and be so in love with them yet know that they probably are going to vanish from your life at one point. If there is no chance of us getting married is it worth it staying in this relationship, get so attached, and then deal with the heartbreak of a break up? Or, is there a chance of us maybe getting married, and should I just stay with him because of that chance?
D-Lish Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Do you really want to break up over a "what if" this early on? No relationship is certain- marriage isn't certain... If you start letting this notion of not being together forever get under your skin... you'll unwittingly sabotage the relationship. Just live for the moment and enjoy what you have right now.
Jilly Bean Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 If he is telling you now that he knows you won't be together forever, it's because he knows you are not the "one". As D said, just enjoy it for what it is. Who knows, maybe you break up, and then get back together when you're 30 and more ready! But don't live for either outcome...
Ruby Slippers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 He has mentioned a couple times that we're probably not going to stay together forever, however, and that makes me scared that I am going to be heartbroken once again. Hmmm. I myself prefer a relationship that has the prospect of lasting. If he's already talking about how it's probably not going to last, I would quickly lose interest and my emotional investment would wane.
Pluto Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Do you really want to break up over a "what if" this early on? No relationship is certain- marriage isn't certain... If you start letting this notion of not being together forever get under your skin... you'll unwittingly sabotage the relationship. Just live for the moment and enjoy what you have right now.# Give this woman a medal, she speaks sense, listen to her in future.
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