Wander_lust Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 My g/f and I have been together about a year and a half. We've been having "the move in talk" and other looks into the future for our relationship. The problem (to me) is this: She is a wonderful, beautiful girl with many if not all the qualities that I could ask for in someone. But she has horrible legs. Legs are my weakness, if not my fetish. And though she is a petite girl up top, it's like there's a completely different person on bottom. I feel that this is VERY shallow, but I can't seem to shake it off my mind in order to move forward in the relationship. Any suggestions? Thanks!
imbewildered Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 My g/f and I have been together about a year and a half. We've been having "the move in talk" and other looks into the future for our relationship. The problem (to me) is this: She is a wonderful, beautiful girl with many if not all the qualities that I could ask for in someone. But she has horrible legs. Legs are my weakness, if not my fetish. And though she is a petite girl up top, it's like there's a completely different person on bottom. I feel that this is VERY shallow, but I can't seem to shake it off my mind in order to move forward in the relationship. Any suggestions? Thanks! You are entitled to your likes and dislikes.
horriblewoman Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 You don't love her then. I know people are going to go all crazy and that's fine. Here's something I learned- when you love a person- you love the good and the bad, and the quirks make you love them even more. I am big on noses- I prefer it to not look like someone is going to go skiing off of it, but the man I'm in love with has a nose like an airplane landing- but it doesn't matter to me. He snores- I HATE snoring, his snoring? I find it adorable. When you trully love another person, they will be attractive to you no matter what.
D-Lish Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 I don't know how you do get over something like that... How do you make it stop bothering you? That's a very difficult question to answer. I think that as you grow to love someone... things like that dissipate. If you are at the point where you are thinking of moving in together, but doubting your physical attraction... I wouldn't suggest moving in together. She'll never be ablt to change her legs- and you'll never be able to change your preference for legs. If it's not something you think you can grow to love or overlook... She deserves better.
shanny Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Why did you start dating her if she is not your type? You are certainly no different from anyone else by having your type but I have been with people that are nothing like mine and I still loved them and didn't feel deprived of anything. If you are feeling deprived in any way, don't move in together. Are you unattracted to her the point where you would consider cheating? If that is the case, you have to let her go. It's not fair to either one of you.
Trialbyfire Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 My g/f and I have been together about a year and a half. We've been having "the move in talk" and other looks into the future for our relationship. The problem (to me) is this: She is a wonderful, beautiful girl with many if not all the qualities that I could ask for in someone. But she has horrible legs. Legs are my weakness, if not my fetish. And though she is a petite girl up top, it's like there's a completely different person on bottom. I feel that this is VERY shallow, but I can't seem to shake it off my mind in order to move forward in the relationship. Any suggestions? Thanks! Let her go. She deserves to be loved from the inside-out. Think clearly on why you allowed this to continue for a year and a half, if your priorities are purely superficial.
notgoodatthis Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 My g/f and I have been together about a year and a half. We've been having "the move in talk" and other looks into the future for our relationship. The problem (to me) is this: She is a wonderful, beautiful girl with many if not all the qualities that I could ask for in someone. But she has horrible legs. Legs are my weakness, if not my fetish. And though she is a petite girl up top, it's like there's a completely different person on bottom. I feel that this is VERY shallow, but I can't seem to shake it off my mind in order to move forward in the relationship. Any suggestions? Thanks! Yeah dog, the bottom line is if you are having any second thoughts about this, you need to step back and do not go through with it. You should only move in with her if you are committed 100%. I think the leg thing is your way of finding a fault in her because you are a not totally sure. Back out now before its too late.
Raina Posted June 17, 2008 Posted June 17, 2008 How will you feel once she starts aging, and wrinkles start showing up, and sagginess takes control of her upper part? Will you stop loving her completely? Every woman you meet and fall for will age and beauty always fade (what a cliché but you know its true). I think you'll need to get over this or you wont find anyone who will make you happy.
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