loveinlife Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Is it wrong to be a nice guy? whats your opinion? In need of some feedback thanks guys/girls.
carhill Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Not wrong. Not efficacious. Not satisfying except in the most altruistic sense. Girls don't hate you. They just don't love you in the way you want. Decades of experience. Hope you don't have that
PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Nothing wrong with being a nice guy. There are lots of girls who like nice guys. Thought I'd finally found a nice guy, but I was wrong.
Nevermind Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Depends on what you do. You might think it is nice, when in reality it isn't. Details?
Author loveinlife Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Depends on what you do. You might think it is nice, when in reality it isn't. Details? I treated this girl as a friend. asked her to come to a club because she wanted to meet up with me. I was there with another girl, she saw it and from then on she turned bad on me. This is like almost a year ago. before today we still talk sometimes. But tonight... she told me out of the blue she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and hope its no offense on me.. i had no idea i had such an impact on her. I didn't know she liked me and i just saw her as a friend before seeing her at the club that night. Then there was this little cousin of mine whom i told that i miss the girl that im currently dating... she told me that i was a loser.. geez what did i do? can't even talk to her about my relationships. these girls i treat and talk to with respect and care.. they just turned their backs on me tonight at around the same time.. So i thought was i too nice or something to them? i dont think verbal abuse is that good coming from them towards me, esp since it can be emotionally damaging to people. needed a place to vent. =) thanks.
Nevermind Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Mh. In case one: She might have understood it as a date, when she saw you with another girl she was hurt and angry. Maybe she had a huge crush on you and thus wanted to go NC. It happens. Look around this forum. She didn't really treat you bad (and you didn't really want anything from her) according to what you wrote. case two: Your cousin is out of line. But it's a single incident with a relative. I wouldn't come to the conclusion that every girl treats you badly. Sorry it happened in one night, but keep your head up. Tomorrow is another day and unless it happens on a daily basis, there is no need to worry. Come here to vent anytime.
Author loveinlife Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Mh. In case one: She might have understood it as a date, when she saw you with another girl she was hurt and angry. Maybe she had a huge crush on you and thus wanted to go NC. It happens. Look around this forum. She didn't really treat you bad (and you didn't really want anything from her) according to what you wrote. case two: Your cousin is out of line. But it's a single incident with a relative. I wouldn't come to the conclusion that every girl treats you badly. Sorry it happened in one night, but keep your head up. Tomorrow is another day and unless it happens on a daily basis, there is no need to worry. Come here to vent anytime. Thanks Nevermind, good positive thoughts and well explained. Yeah i will come back for sure when i need it. =)
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