MalachiX Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Ok, my EX and i split up about four/five months ago after 2.5 years. She lives in Columbus OH. My parents keep telling me about some minor flooding in the area though, every time I check online, it doesn't seem like anything major. On the one hand, I really want to make sure she's OK and, even though I'm almost positive she is, I guess just let her know that I hope she's allright and I still worry about her. On the other hand, I'm really NOT read to talk to her again and I don't know if she's ready to talk to me again. I don't bear her any grudges or anything, in fact I still love her (probably will for a while even if I know we aren't mean to be), but I just don't feel emotionaly ready to speak to her right now. I've vowed never to look at her Facebook again (I FC stalked her for about a week after the break up before swearing it off) so I don't even know how this might have affected her. I guess what I'm trying to say is i want to know what a good person would do in this situation. I've experienced a crap load of personal growth since we split up and so much of it lead to me deciding that, from now on, I'd do my best to be honest an treat people right. I don't know if the right thing to do is to check up on her or if it's just pointless and I'll needlessly open up old wounds for both her and myself. What do I do?
jerbear Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Pointless. Just looking to make sure she is ok is just asking for punishment. You're just looking for a reason to say hi. Then you'll find out she is doing much better. If you say you have grown, was the grown related to what she thought was the reasons for the breakup? If so then maybe contact is worth it but she lives far away and do you really want and LDR? Also if you are not ready then don't talk to her. It will open up old wounds.
wareagle Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Nah dude let it go! Won't do you any good to contact her! If she really needed you then she would make the first contact. They are an ex for a reason, she didn't need you then and she probably don't need you now! Just the way I see it!!
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