Mary3 Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Hey everyone , Just wondered if its irritating to you if someone is ALWAYS complaining about anything and everything. Why do you think they complain so much ? I am a positive person and it just takes away the attraction to listen to all that. I am also a problem solver so I offer solutions. Do you think people who complain really want their problem/ situation to change ?
carrotgirl Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Hey everyone , Just wondered if its irritating to you if someone is ALWAYS complaining about anything and everything. Why do you think they complain so much ? I am a positive person and it just takes away the attraction to listen to all that. I am also a problem solver so I offer solutions. Do you think people who complain really want their problem/ situation to change ? Well people who [think they] are always Mary Sunshine going about offering solutions irritate the hell out of me! Mary, I think what is perceived as complaining is often merely sharing (crap does happen in life) or working things out aloud for themselves. It may even be plain old venting. Make sense? Carrot
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Well people who [think they] are always Mary Sunshine going about offering solutions irritate the hell out of me! Mary, I think what is perceived as complaining is often merely sharing (crap does happen in life) or working things out aloud for themselves. It may even be plain old venting. Make sense? Carrot Yes , but if you present me with a problem , I try to find a solution. Because if I keep my same problem and whine about it all the time , isn't that like Baggage ?
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Well people who [think they] are always Mary Sunshine going about offering solutions irritate the hell out of me! Mary, I think what is perceived as complaining is often merely sharing (crap does happen in life) or working things out aloud for themselves. It may even be plain old venting. Make sense? Carrot And I understand the venting thing. But do you think on a first and second date that a guy should go on a long diatribe about everything his ex did to him and how crappy his day was ?
carrotgirl Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Mary3, what exactly is your problem now? Oh let the woman complain! Gee!
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Oh let the woman complain! Gee! Hopefully Mary3 knows I'm just teasing her in good fun.
Kamille Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Problem: Guy spends date complaining Solution: Mary refuses to go on more dates with complainer. Result: Guy is free to meet a fellow complainer, Mary free to meet fellow problem-solver.
carrotgirl Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Hopefully Mary3 knows I'm just teasing her in good fun. I think she knows we're both being lighthearted. Just come tell us about your irritating date Mary! Carrot
carrotgirl Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Problem: Guy spends date complaining Solution: Mary refuses to go on more dates with complainer. Result: Guy is free to meet a fellow complainer, Mary free to meet fellow problem-solver. There goes Kamille, solving the problem before we even get a good rant! Some people!
Kamille Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 There goes Kamille, solving the problem before we even get a good rant! Some people! Some might say, I'm as good at solving problems as I am at provoking good rants . Although I admit a good rant about complainer guy would be a good reward for all my problem-solving efforts.
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 I love you guys ! Well since I guess I am a problem solver, its frustrating when someone * whines ~er complains * so much and I want to help and I can't help that person...
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Problem: Guy spends date complaining Solution: Mary refuses to go on more dates with complainer. Result: Guy is free to meet a fellow complainer, Mary free to meet fellow problem-solver. This must be my answer
Kamille Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 This must be my answer Too bad I'm not a guy . Now tell us, seriously, he spent the first two dates ranting about his ex and complaining about his crappy day?
imbewildered Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Problem: Guy spends date complaining Solution: Mary refuses to go on more dates with complainer. Result: Guy is free to meet a fellow complainer, Mary free to meet fellow problem-solver. Mary- Kamille just solved YOUR problem for you, and now you need complain about the complainer no more . Any other dilemma in your life that we can help with ?
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Too bad I'm not a guy . Now tell us, seriously, he spent the first two dates ranting about his ex and complaining about his crappy day? Yes and it was a big turn off....As a matter of fact , it turns my stomach....does that make me a bad date ? hehe
carrotgirl Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Yes and it was a big turn off....As a matter of fact , it turns my stomach....does that make me a bad date ? hehe Maybe it's just me, for why did you go twice? Maybe you need to go again just to be sure... Carrot
AriaIncognito Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Personally, it bothers me when a person always seems negative. I have a few friends that only seem to be happy when they are complaining about something. The food is undercooked/overcooked/doesn't taste right, etc. I dont know, it just irritates me when it happens time and time again. Sure, it's hard to always be positive, and lord knows i'm not, but it's best to not always share every single complaint, especially if it's early on in a relationship. All it will do is make the person seem unable to please, and well, what hope will you feel you have with someone you can't make happy.
Author Mary3 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Maybe it's just me, for why did you go twice? Maybe you need to go again just to be sure... Carrot LOL ! I also notice these guys that unload also tell me about their sexual stuff with their exes....Yuck,...why do they tell me that ?
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