v33 Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Man, does going out an getting some new clothes really help a guy feel better about himself. Thanks to the "break-up diet" I have lost about 15 lbs. (A lot on my frame) And have been slowly building up a new wardrobe. No more baggy jeans, hoodies, large t-shirts, none of that. I have made a conscious effort every day since the split to "kick it up" a notch in the dressing department and it really does give me a confidence boost. Simple things like jeans that fit right, and nice white shirt to show off the tan (one that fits, none of this over sized stuff anymore) making sure my shoes are polished. Ya, I still might be a little broken inside but when I pass by a mirror or a window I find myself thinking "Now there's a good lookin' guy!". Getting in shape and eating well is a big help as well. When you focus on the positive changes you make you realize that you are doing something good for yourself and you find more value in who you are through simple self respect. Anyone can look good. I am no Brad Pitt (is he still considered hot?) but if you treat your body with respect and make an effort to put forth your best appearance you start to really believe that you can be desired by others again. Our exes hit us hard when they left but we they didn't maim us or disfigure us, they didn't take away our careers, our interests, our unique personalities. We can regroup, get things together and find a new partner... and until that happens we can learn to improve and love ourselves more in order to attract a higher quality person into our lives. I propose the following : - Go for a 30 minute walk every day at a brisk pace. - Address your diet, a little less of the bad stuff, a little more of the good. - Get a pair of jeans that fit and a new favorite shirt. - Buy a book, something you might not usually read. Expand your horizons. - Make a point of sleeping well. 7-8 hours a night. - Read a newspaper every day. You need things to think and talk about. - Accept EVERY invitation to get to go out an social, with guys or girls. I don't know where I am going with this anymore.... kinda off track, but maybe it will help someone.
kizik Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I like your thinking. Too bad my laundry's piled up and I got no money for new clothes! All of things you discuss are great, V. I'm super down in the dumps right now, trying to finish homework. This week I have school off, and it will be the week to get everything in order again. Glad you're doing well, bro. K
Lizzie60 Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 AAhhhhh.. V33.. HOW REFRESHING!!!!! Congratulations.. I love your post.. it will give hope and boost people out there I am sure.. It is well said.. LS should make this post a winner and pin it up in the Coping Forum for everyone to see and read for years to come... I looooved it!!!! Good for you.. see... there is hope.. it's hard for a while but when you take control of your life.. only good things can happen.. and it will get better and better.. been there.. I'm happy for you..
wareagle Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Good for you man! I also did some retail therapy yesterday that's gonna set me back in the financial department somewhat, but hey I needed some new ****! Also been hittin the gym and lost some weight, I guess that is one of the good things to come out of heartbreak huh? hahaha! Keep up the good work man I'm proud of you!
sunshinegirl Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Retail therapy is good especially for short-term boosts. I've done some retail therapy this round...and last time this ex broke up with me? I went out and bought a car - how's that for retail therapy? Still, in the end your feelings are still going to be there to deal with. Sadly enough.
mollers Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Nice one V, I totally agree about the retail therapy and keeping yourself looking good. It does help. It sounds like you are doing really well. P.S: I'm a female who doesn't think Brad Pitt is anything to get excited about anyway.
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