Sears Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I understand there is something to reading body language according to a friend. I went to visit my a lady I’m going out with in her office. I know her week was crappy and her day was extremely busy. I dropped in just to say hi and was offered a seat. Here are the body language cues I observed: She sat back in her seat with her head craned to the left Her left hand was on the back of her neck and fooled with her hair a little Her right hand was on her right thigh but I don’t remember what it was doing(I was too into her eyes) Her upper torso was pointed to me Her legs were casual crossed with her foot kind of bobbing towards me(I don’t know what if anything this means but she does know I have a foot fetish) She was smiling for the most part while she talked And she did a quick up and down look towards my pee-pee area. What confuses me is the crossed leg thing. A person said this means closed out but the body being turned towards me negates this. Any ideas? Anything to reading body language?
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I can't say I'm a body language expert but I know I do many of those things without thinking about it, with no romantic or sexual interest. If you want to rely on body language, tellers are if she gets into your personal space, touching you or getting very close to you. She'll give you the come-hither looks with her eyes, with what she says to you. The crazy part is that this is also what attention whores use to get attention, without serious intent. There's no sure thing beyond asking her out and having her accept.
OpenBook Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 She's a c*ckteaser. :D:D OK, here's my guess. First impression, gut reaction... Why in the world is she twisting herself into a pretzel?? This indicates to me that she is feeling quite a bit of sexual tension in your presence. The legs crossed may mean she's trying to keep a lid on it. Or trying to tell you (while teasing you with her foot): "I want you to fight for me, big guy."
GPFan Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Body language is only part of the whole, facial expressions (as mentioned), tone of voice, words and actions are part-and-parcel of communication. What was the question again?
DunnoWhat Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 It seems she may actually like you if thats what you're worried about! Smiling as she talked to you would be a good indicator that she feels good in your presense.
Pluto Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Body Language is hard to distinquish and define, I don't buy into it myself. Why waste all your time focusing on someone twisting their hair when it's probably just a habit? Just get down to the crunch, talk to her, engage her and then exchange numbers and arrange a date, if she is interested she'll accept. You cut out all that nonsense in an instant. Body Language is nothing to go by, word of mouth is more reliable and you don't spend a week, month or a year in limbo.
DunnoWhat Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Body Language is nothing to go by, word of mouth is more reliable and you don't spend a week, month or a year in limbo. Not from my experiances. Actions speak louder than words. Body language isn't 100% accurate and can be confusing like some women they are natural flirts etc but it's a good indicator of interest. If a women don't like you you'd know by the body language and not by her saying so.
Balthazar Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 The interpretation of body language is not easy at most times. If it is easy, that is because the message is loud and clear; ex: a person folding their arms when you are reprimanding them. You need to judge each situation at that moment, and use your intuition. On the basis of the data you presented, the woman seems interested.
Pluto Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Not from my experiances. Actions speak louder than words. Body language isn't 100% accurate and can be confusing like some women they are natural flirts etc but it's a good indicator of interest. If a women don't like you you'd know by the body language and not by her saying so. Simple body action such as the way a person sits is easily recognisable. I know a lot of women who twirl their hair and cross their feet and what not out of habit. They don't do this to show their attraction to someone, body language like that is not universal and it is best not to read too much into body language especially in terms of gaining a date or determining whether someone is interested in you or not. Conversation and asking someone out on a date is a quickfire way to get your answer. Instead of worrying over body language "oh she didn't touch her hair" she doesn't like me". Its a complete waste of time. When you speak to the opposite sex you should get an indication whether she or he is engaged and interested or not. If you are unsure, ask for their number and invite them out somewhere (if they comply with the exchange of numbers).
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