blackberry23 Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Okay, well my last post was sort of long and not exactly to the point ! OK-so here it goes... My ex and I were together for about 1.5 years, a little less. Our relationship was pleasant 98% of the time. No major issues what-so-ever. He ended it b/c he "wanted to be free" which I understand b/c our relationship was very exclusive, and I somewhat felt this way too..but would have rather worked it out. We stopped all contact after a month of crying and confusion from both sides when I noticed how he wasn't really caring anymore and he told me he was talking to another girl who he works with. I was very upset at first when he told me about the new girl, but it made things easier in a way. I was doing fine without him-then he text/calls me and basically pleads to see me again. He claimed to have made a huge mistake, I'm the one for him, he wanted something serious with me...He'd do anything to be with me..etc etc. We hang out one night-it was perfect... "like we never missed a beat". The next day was just bad. I felt uneasy...so did he I guess. Needless to say he says he is confused and needs to be alone. He claimed to have "missed me but not the relationship" Was I too anxious? Did I scare him away? Or did he never really want me back in the first place?
chrisanderson Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I've read cases like this before and unfortunately you didnt know. When they come back you MUST make them chase you. You can't give in so easily or else they'll be gone once again. Hopefully he'll come back so that you can actually make him work for it. good luck
Author blackberry23 Posted June 15, 2008 Author Posted June 15, 2008 I wanted to make him work for it but i gave in to my emotions...& I do blame myself for giving in so easily :-( but I couldn't help it. I don't think he's ever coming back. We decided that one day we will be friends because we both care about each other and connect really well. Obviously neither of us can have feelings for each other so it will be awhile. I did give into my intimate feelings as well. He claimed that it was not the reason he came back...and I do believe him because he could have gotten it from the girl he was "talking" to. Also, I left this part out.. he started seeing a therapist or someone to that respect somewhat in the beginning of our relationship to help calm his anxiety. He stopped seeing him a while ago until he started to miss me and the guy told him to wait to talk to me, it was probably just an "impulse" feeling. But he claimed he couldn't wait. And on day 3 of our talking again he went to go see him again.. and right after is when he told me he needed be alone. Ughh I don't know. If he really loved me, he wouldn't have left again
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