SadShamrock Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Hello, First of all, I am sorry that I do not contribute as much as I should, given how helpful everyone has been to me over the last several months. Well, my ex and I have been broken up for several months now. I am feeling better. I'm actually interested in someone. A great person. Who is great for me. The ex was extremely hostile to me when we had spoken in the past. He bad mouthed me to people, who he knew would tell me what he had to say. In the last 6 weeks or so- all of a sudden he has a change of heart. He wants to be my friend now. He calls me now. He drunk dials (quite a bit). I always sleep through his drunk dials though. I'm at a loss for why he would have a change of heart. He never formally apologized for how he treated me. I guess he hasn't because I have allowed him not to (grr. this thought just came to me. damn it). When we talk, he sort of jokes about my quirkiness in our relationship. It's fun when we talk, and I feel better that he seems to not hate me anymore; however, what is his motive? Could someone who treated you like you had no soul or heart for seven months...all of a sudden really want to be your friend genuinely. What could be his motive? I personally don't think he realized what a "good friend" I am. Or that I am a good person who he cares about who he truly wants in his life, because he valued the relationship between us- at least the friendship. I don't think this is the case- because if I had wronged someone who I cared about- I would say I am sorry. So what's his deal? There is no sex. He is a million miles away. I also know that he is sort of beginning a relationship with someone new. I'm not naive. Maybe stupid. I truly at some point want him to forgive me and us to move on and be friends, but how can you truly be friends with someone that doesn't respect he treated you poorly- maybe when circumstances allowed that- I know we all make mistakes and we say and do things to hurt people sometimes- but if you really care, you say sorry at the VERY least.
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