Tabatha Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 To read this right, it starts from bottom to top. A rapper, who's been talking with me ocassionally since the break-up gave me some really great insight into what I needed to do, and what I was doing wrong. It really helped! I hear ya! Again thanks so much. Talking with you has been really insightful ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Mason Dixie.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 8:05 AM hang in there...u a big girl lol u can handle it , just give it time, don't stress it so much. let it go and whats gonna happen is gonna happen. find peace within yaself and get to the point where you don't need ANYONE to feel legitimate. you don't wanna be co-dependant on someone else because they might not always be around, and then what are you gonna do? love is funny. it plays tricks on ya mind and ****. it's hard. and its definitely easier said than done, trying to resist something every nerve in your body is fienin' for is hard as hell, but its a necessity for survival...u gotta live with the mentality that what happens, happens for a reason, let it go and if it comes back then its real. if it doesn't, it wasn't worth fighting for in the first place, ya dig ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Tabatha.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 2:52 PM Thank you for that. But that just goes back to my fears of him forgetting about me. I even told him that. I said, you would probably end up forgetting about me if I didn't contact you in a week. I know that's what I have to do. I have to leave him alone. It's just so hard. It's like he was my drug, and I have to withdrawl one step at a time. It's so funny, cuz it seems so true. I was just getting used to not seeing him all the time, and then we started seeing each other every other day for the past 3 weeks, and now this week I have to endure not seeing him for days. I get addicted to seeing him again all the time...so quick. We fall back into our routine. But we just get comfortable with each other, and enjoy spending time with each other. .. Then something happens where he pulls away again, and I latch on to keep him from ..going. .. It..'s like playing Tug A War with him when things go wrong. It's sad. ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Mason Dixie.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 7:31 AM these are classic male withdrawal sympotms...he's definitely trying to get over you, but he's not over you. trust me, whe guys are over you. you will know. there won't be any contact, phone, face-to-face, email, chain letter, nunna that...lol but, you gotta be careful in this kinda situation, if you are too aggressive and too clingy you can definitely push him away even farther. dudes, hate clingy chicks. they want you to want 'em but when it comes to the point where you're always calling, and askin' to hang out, he can feel overwhelmed. don't do that. you're just gonna push him away. you gotta keep busy, find things to do to keep your mind off what he's doing, who he's with and why he's not calling you. because when you sit and dwell you can drive yourself crazy. and that will rub off on him, and u wont be as attractive. i gaurantee, if you don't call, don't txt, don't contact him and make yourself unavailable, he will persue you. right now, you're making it to easy...it's all about the chase. member that ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Tabatha.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 2:13 PM Well he tries to tell me guys don't think about stuff woman do. I'm sure you guys think about stuff the same because he sat there and went back and forward with his feelings about wanting to break it off with me. I don't want him to ever forget me. Or leave me behind. And thats what I'm scared of. I want to be close with him. I don't like being apart. I feel as though when we are apart we don't get along. When we are together it's like he treats me as someone he loves, he treats me as if i was his girl again. And when we first broke up he didn't want to come around because he still had feelings for me. Now, he says he's over me. He just says I bug him by calling him everyday and wanting to see him all the time. I just want to see what he's up to. I want to see how his day is going. I want to keep that close connection. He tells me that when he wants to contact me, he will. When he wants to see me, he will. But I don't want to sit and wait for when HE wants to do something. It shouldn't be about that. It should be equal. Like today, he says his car isn't working (which truly isn't) and he's going to his Brother in laws birthday tonight, so he can't come and get me. But why not say, okay so not today, but we can possibly hang out in 1 or 2? He never says that. He keeps me waiting and guessing about the next time I'll see him. ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Mason Dixie.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 7:01 AM oh i see...well you know a lotta times in relationships being close is the only rememdy because the physicality is involved...the connection is stronger. time apart don't always make the heart grow fonder, sometimes it's "outta sight, outta mind"...i don't really know ya'll situation but i see you still call him yo "ex" so i assume ya'll not together anymore. and that might be whats holdin' him back from coming around. he doesn't know where he stand. where ya'll stand. he might be feelin' a lil vulnerable because everytime he come around those feelings creep back up and he reminded of what ya'll were so he keep his distance. dudes do that all the time, fallin' for a woman is always a internal battle, cause dudes don't wanna be hurt, and we got egos, and we wanna be "quote, unquote" a "man"...lol just a thought tell him how u feel, tell him u need him around, hell tell him u need him back, if he feel the same way or if he need u, he'll come around....bet ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Tabatha.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 1:50 PM its just my ma was being a bitch to my ex and me, now my ex don't probably want to see me ever again. him and i been arguing alot lately. it's been 3 days since i've seen him last and it looks as though it will be more. i just miss him and its getting to the point where i can't talk to him on the phone anymore. we get along great in person, its just something always happens when we try to talk over the phone. He says he don't like talking on it, doesn't have much to say, and says we always talk about the same things over and over again. So, why not come and get me so we can speak in person since we are happier in person, ya know? ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Mason Dixie.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 6:45 AM whatchu goin' through? wanna talk... ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Tabatha.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 1:43 PM yeah, im hanging in there. Life's just been crappy lately. ----------------- Original Message ----------------- From: ..Mason Dixie.. Date: Jun 14, 2008 6:23 AM wassup? how u been? see ain't ya friend, "again"...lol damn, i really musta did something to u...don't know what, but its all good. hopefully u'll forgive me lol...u ok?
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