candykisses Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 I know that it's very hard for a shy, anti social guy to break out of his shell with anyone, especially with women. So my question is, if he does break down that wall for a certain woman, does it usually lead somewhere? And once you get close to him, it is hard for him to push you away? I have always heard that once a guy like that lets someone in, they are in for good, any truth to this?
Suiyobi Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 I know that it's very hard for a shy, anti social guy to break out of his shell with anyone, especially with women. So my question is, if he does break down that wall for a certain woman, does it usually lead somewhere? And once you get close to him, it is hard for him to push you away? I have always heard that once a guy like that lets someone in, they are in for good, any truth to this? Hmm, gonna give out some generalizations here and in no way am I representing the truth of every single shy guy out there, but how I see it is that shy guys tend to be pretty devoted to the girls they like, especially to their first girlfriends. So if you welcome a shy guy to your life then be sure you are willing to appreciate the (overwhelming) attention he gives you. For some girls, this may be a sign of neediness, but you should also try to understand things from his perspective. Girls usually find it easier to have options, guys (especially shy guys) don't even have any options to begin with. So when a shy guy gets a girlfriend, he'll tend to make sure that you are aware that he is very much interested in you, still. Honestly, I don't see these types of guys to be the one to try to push the girls away, it's more like the other way around. And in the case that a break up has to happen, please be very careful and clear about it. Guys like these have somewhat fragile hearts.
Pedigree Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I know that it's very hard for a shy, anti social guy to break out of his shell with anyone, especially with women. So my question is, if he does break down that wall for a certain woman, does it usually lead somewhere? Not a full blown introvert (I just lean that way), but in the 2 occasions I got out of my shell I did want it to lead to somewhere. But obviously, given the rare occasions of us coming out of our shell, our chances are drastically reduced. First time around I got rejected, second time around the girl in question already has a bf. And once you get close to him' date=' it is hard for him to push you away?[/quote'] Well, be cautious when you show signals or do things that could be seen as a signal because they'll get more aggressive. I have always heard that once a guy like that lets someone in' date=' they are in for good, any truth to this? [/quote'] Well that's not true because if I got rejected and the girl in question is still "in" that means I don't have any pride whatsoever. But that's not to say that it doesn't hurt. Suiyobi's correct about the fragile heart thing, took me close to 18 months after my 1st rejection before I approached another girl in that way.
monkey00 Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 Hmm, gonna give out some generalizations here and in no way am I representing the truth of every single shy guy out there, but how I see it is that shy guys tend to be pretty devoted to the girls they like, especially to their first girlfriends. So if you welcome a shy guy to your life then be sure you are willing to appreciate the (overwhelming) attention he gives you. For some girls, this may be a sign of neediness, but you should also try to understand things from his perspective. Girls usually find it easier to have options, guys (especially shy guys) don't even have any options to begin with. So when a shy guy gets a girlfriend, he'll tend to make sure that you are aware that he is very much interested in you, still. Honestly, I don't see these types of guys to be the one to try to push the girls away, it's more like the other way around. And in the case that a break up has to happen, please be very careful and clear about it. Guys like these have somewhat fragile hearts. I kind of have to agree with this generalization. Being a former shy guy, I've been down that road before. Well not only that but my friend who's also shy around girls is now going out with his first gf. I'd hate to say it but he's whipped, lol. I don't believe all shy guys stay the same, some eventually come out of their shells (that is if they make the effort). Those that want to stay within their comfort zone are never able to come out.
Suiyobi Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I kind of have to agree with this generalization. Being a former shy guy, I've been down that road before. Well not only that but my friend who's also shy around girls is now going out with his first gf. I'd hate to say it but he's whipped, lol. I don't believe all shy guys stay the same, some eventually come out of their shells (that is if they make the effort). Those that want to stay within their comfort zone are never able to come out. Hehe, I guess I could say that when I made my post above I was actually speaking on my own behalf, because I'm still a -somewhat- shy guy. I'm slowly breaking away from my shell but you probably won't catch me striking up a conversation to some random girl, especially if she's hot. I mean, I wish I could, but right now I don't think I'm ready to take such high-risk endeavors lol.
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