replicator Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Well, after my ex sent me the last email, I've been obsessing over writing her one more time. She basically told me that she'll always love me, but she still feels lost and doesn't know what the future holds for her. Nothing changed really, but she showed a bit of the person that I knew and loved. The message in the letter I want to send is not to win her back, it is actually letting her know that I deserve better. I wrote it as I was crying. It has lots of emotion. I am basically wanting to tell her that I am moving on without her. I don't know why I feel compelled to send it... When I ask myself that honestly, I guess I hope that it will hurt her, and remind her that she is losing me forever. She pushed me away already, but I want to reject her too, so she knows that I'm not pining for her anymore (though I am). Should I send it?
LikeCharlotte Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Wait two weeks or two months and then read it. I would say don't send it but I don't know for sure. Honestly I think its healthy to it out of you but you shouldn't send it. If you read it in two weeks and you still want to send it... maybe.
Nevermind Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Mh. It depends. If you really truly never want to hear from her again AND do not care what she thinks of you..write it. I wouldn't. (gasp!) You do deserve better. And you deserve so much better that you don't need to ler her know this. What would sendin this letter do for you? Would you wait for a reaction? Would you hope that she regrets something? If she doesn't regret now, words won't make her. (((hugs))) Maybe send her a postcard from the holiday with the adriana lima lookalike you'll certainly have in the future?
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Well, after my ex sent me the last email, I've been obsessing over writing her one more time. She basically told me that she'll always love me, but she still feels lost and doesn't know what the future holds for her. Nothing changed really, but she showed a bit of the person that I knew and loved. The message in the letter I want to send is not to win her back, it is actually letting her know that I deserve better. I wrote it as I was crying. It has lots of emotion. I am basically wanting to tell her that I am moving on without her. I don't know why I feel compelled to send it... When I ask myself that honestly, I guess I hope that it will hurt her, and remind her that she is losing me forever. She pushed me away already, but I want to reject her too, so she knows that I'm not pining for her anymore (though I am). Should I send it? Think first, act later. Then you'll make the right decision at the right time. Take care, darl.
kizik Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Rep, she doesn't need to know that you can do better than her, can move on without her, etc. She will know this by your silence. Like you said, there was a "last email", and you have to let it be. I know you say you're not trying to get her back, but I would venture that in some deep area of your consciousness... you ARE. On some level, I think we all want our exes back, if only for the comfort of knowing someone. As painful as it might be to admit it, you're no exception. So, don't send the letter, she doesn't deserve your words and it won't help you to send it, anyway.
Author replicator Posted June 15, 2008 Author Posted June 15, 2008 Rep, she doesn't need to know that you can do better than her, can move on without her, etc. She will know this by your silence. Like you said, there was a "last email", and you have to let it be. I know you say you're not trying to get her back, but I would venture that in some deep area of your consciousness... you ARE. On some level, I think we all want our exes back, if only for the comfort of knowing someone. As painful as it might be to admit it, you're no exception. So, don't send the letter, she doesn't deserve your words and it won't help you to send it, anyway. You're right. You make so much sense, it's tough to understand what I'm thinking sometimes. I do what her back, and I do want a reply. I want to be in her consciousness, and I'm afraid that without a reminder that I exist, she will be able to move on without me. Something in the back of my head says that my situation is different, that she still loves me.. That I can make her feel something again. I guess I haven't let go of this hope, and I don't know how to do it.
kizik Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 You and I are in exactly the same boat. Exactly the same. I feel mired in regret right now, as you can read on my other thread: What if I waited too long to try contact? But was it up to me to keep trying, when I've been trying for a year to keep this thing going?
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