motive2002 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Damn, I thought I was done with this! I keep bouncing around these stupid grief phases. Today's phase is anger, brought to you by the letter D for DIE and the number 8, for 8 weeks NC. I was wishing bad things to happen to the ex today. Maybe she would be consumed by fire, and be badly scarred and in pain the rest of her life. That would be nice. Boy I have it bad today. Maybe it's the whole Friday the 13th thing going on. I feel terrible for having these thoughts, but at the same time I'm SO ANGRY at her. I really, really am pissed off. Maybe YYY will come visit my thread. I think he's an expert on this sort of thing.
Author motive2002 Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 Oh, also, here's some really angry bunnies. ARRRGHHHH!!! RAWRRR!! :bunny: You can tell they're really pissed, can't you?
kizik Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 kizik playing the part of Y: **** HER! She is such a stupid whore. Come suck my ****, whore! **** you! Ok enough. i'm pissed too, Motive. Look - she don't want me. That's it! She Does Not Want Me. She Doesn't Want Me. That's it. It's that simple. So, do I need to feel like a loser? NO. Do I need to hate her? NO. Things change. It's not my fault. Not my fault. Please read: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t155268/
Trialbyfire Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Your angry bunnies are scary! Maybe it's their tails? I'm not sure. /////????????????*******ing *****ing *****???????????////////
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Damn, I thought I was done with this! I keep bouncing around these stupid grief phases. Today's phase is anger, brought to you by the letter D for DIE and the number 8, for 8 weeks NC. I was wishing bad things to happen to the ex today. Maybe she would be consumed by fire, and be badly scarred and in pain the rest of her life. That would be nice. Boy I have it bad today. Maybe it's the whole Friday the 13th thing going on. I feel terrible for having these thoughts, but at the same time I'm SO ANGRY at her. I really, really am pissed off. Maybe YYY will come visit my thread. I think he's an expert on this sort of thing. Right there with ya! I downloaded some things off the net last night, filled them in and sent them off to the appropriate people. What this will do, will make him have to shut up business in the state he is in and move elsewhere to trade. The same as I have had to do. He thought my son and I would just walk away quietly and SHUT THE **** UP, like he used to tell us. He shouldn't have ****ed with my son. He got my son to take his car to him to detail and sell for him (on the day I officially left the house) and sold it but never gave my boy his money. That's stealing!!! And he stole from my son. So he ****ed with me. Now he's going to have to move interstate (like I did), re-establish (like I did) and understand the hardship of not having the support system of people around you who love you (like I did.) Oh, and his grotty son, his girlfriend and their baby have to do all the same things because father and son work together. (I do feel for the baby to some extent but these people are pretty much trailer type trash who use people and spit them out so this child is never going to amount to much anyway. Might sound terrible but this is how it is.) He knows how hard it is to re-establish a business in another state, too. **** WITH ME, TONY!!!! BAD MOVE!!!!!!**** WITH MY SON!!!!! FATAL ERROR!!!!
wareagle Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 HaHa!!! You guys use the term trailer trash in aussieland??? To ****ing funny!!!! What a small world we live in!!
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 HaHa!!! You guys use the term trailer trash in aussieland??? To ****ing funny!!!! What a small world we live in!! No we don't call them that actually but if I'd called them BOGANS, you wouldn't have got my meaning and I wanted to leave no misinterpretation of the terminology. Motive I understand your anger. Your girl sounds like she has a personality disorder like my ex. I am doing anything vengeful to the letter of the law. I did what I did because of my son. While I was with this guy, he never let me do anything where Luke was concerned. Now, he can't stop me from doing anything. This is the last thing I need to do. Luke trusted him and he betrayed that. If you feel you have to do something, think first, act later. Is it worth it? Will there be any kind of ramifications? And are you better off now without her in your life? What are you going to achieve out of getting her back in your life? This girl had other things going on in her life besides you. I don't know about you but I like to be the most important thing in my partners' life. This girl placed others before you. She could have brought home a disease. These are the kinds of things you need to think about. Pretty girls are a dime a dozen. And you sound like a lovely guy. Find a lovely girl. They are out there.
replicator Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 I've been struggling with feelings of anger too. I just think how she could do this to me after all I've done for her. I've been writing these nasty emails, but never sending them, though I'm tempted to. I think I just want her to feel my pain, but then, what good does that do. Later on I realize it is all just pointless. Just need to ride it out and not do anything stupid. Argghh.. So frustrating.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 AfterX I wish we could start a band together. Its when people feel the lowest about their own lives and the degenerate human race that they make the most vital art.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 I'm a musician, and my new songs (about her) KICK ASS!!!!! You're doin' the same?Well Im not in a recent break up, but Ive been feeling a lot of pressure and lonliness lately. Money problems, lonliness, unrequited and impossible dreams, hopelessness... Unfortunatley I dont have any good equipment at the moment, but I have in the past and if I did I think Id put out something intense. Its not the same as love, but its the next best thing
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Damn, I thought I was done with this! I keep bouncing around these stupid grief phases. Today's phase is anger, brought to you by the letter D for DIE and the number 8, for 8 weeks NC. I was wishing bad things to happen to the ex today. Maybe she would be consumed by fire, and be badly scarred and in pain the rest of her life. That would be nice. Boy I have it bad today. Maybe it's the whole Friday the 13th thing going on. I feel terrible for having these thoughts, but at the same time I'm SO ANGRY at her. I really, really am pissed off. Maybe YYY will come visit my thread. I think he's an expert on this sort of thing. Motive, I think my reply to you was based on a different thread! Disregard what's not appropriate to your situation and take on what is. You're allowed to be angry. Never forget this. Grieve. It's what gets us over things.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 What set you off Motive? *hugs* I hope you are feeling better.
Author motive2002 Posted June 14, 2008 Author Posted June 14, 2008 HaHa!!! You guys use the term trailer trash in aussieland??? To ****ing funny!!!! What a small world we live in!! This reminds me of a quote. It's perfect for the ex: "You can take the girl out of the trailer park, but you can't take the trailer park out of the girl." Now she may have not ever lived in a trailer park, but she is white trash through and through. White trash druggie whore. Why did I ever fall so hard for such a lousy person?
LikeCharlotte Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 Why did I ever fall so hard for such a lousy person?So, I'm assuming you are still angry. When I was feeling really angry my friends were trying to help me by saying mean things about him. They aren't mean people and really most of it was to try to make me smile or help me feel better but they really did tear him apart. At some point there wasn't really any cruel words, armchair psychoanalysis, insults, funny name calling or things that were a "just bit mean" left to say so the good ones were recycling. I was with four or five close girlfriends and their SO's and they were all trying to keep me smiling. Everyone was taking their shots at him in rotation. I was becoming bored, withdrawn and sad again. A few of the boyfriends tried to make me laugh with some funny comments but I wasn't smiling anymore. I told them all that I appreciated what they were trying to do and started to explain that I knew that no one really thought that his head was huge or that he was dumb and socially inept. One of my girlfriends stood up and looked at me and said; "Charlotte, I don't care what you say about him anymore. He's probably not all those bad things and whatever... because I don't care about his excuses... because I love you! and he's stupid and he can't have you anymore and... and... and (you could tell she was looking for a good word) and (she was being pretty loud and sincere) He's just... he's a LEAVER!" We all started laughing really hard. We were all laughing saying over and over "he's a leaver"! At first she was trying to explain it saying "Well because he left, and he kept leaving..." but we were laughing too hard to listen to her. She started laughing at herself too. The laughing went on and on with all of us for at least 30 minutes. After all the terrible things we'd said in our catty little sewing circle over the years nothing was ever as true or as mean. Now among my friends the worst thing you can be is a leaver. Hey motive... She's a LEVER! Hope you are feeling better. :bunny:
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 This reminds me of a quote. It's perfect for the ex: "You can take the girl out of the trailer park, but you can't take the trailer park out of the girl." Now she may have not ever lived in a trailer park, but she is white trash through and through. White trash druggie whore. Why did I ever fall so hard for such a lousy person? I grew up in a very middle class background as well. Why did I fall for who I did? He knew which buttons to push, that's why and so did your girl, Motive. They're clever. This is survival to these people. They have no idea about what a healthy relationship is about, so they con people. I was at a low ebb when I met my ex and he knew it. So must you have been. ?Thank goodness we got away
sunshinegirl Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 I was wishing bad things to happen to the ex today. Maybe she would be consumed by fire, and be badly scarred and in pain the rest of her life. That would be nice. I've had, still have, thoughts like this. I even hoped he would die, but then Tim Russert died and I realized I wouldn't want that to happen to my ex - he has a young daughter and it would be horrible for her. BUT I do continue to wish he would have some disfiguring accident to mess up his beautiful plastic Ken doll face, permanently. Or that he would break a leg so horribly that he could never run or climb again. Or that he would become sterile. You get the idea.
sunshinegirl Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 So, I'm assuming you are still angry. When I was feeling really angry my friends were trying to help me by saying mean things about him. They aren't mean people and really most of it was to try to make me smile or help me feel better but they really did tear him apart. At some point there wasn't really any cruel words, armchair psychoanalysis, insults, funny name calling or things that were a "just bit mean" left to say so the good ones were recycling. I was with four or five close girlfriends and their SO's and they were all trying to keep me smiling. Everyone was taking their shots at him in rotation. I was becoming bored, withdrawn and sad again. A few of the boyfriends tried to make me laugh with some funny comments but I wasn't smiling anymore. I told them all that I appreciated what they were trying to do and started to explain that I knew that no one really thought that his head was huge or that he was dumb and socially inept. One of my girlfriends stood up and looked at me and said; "Charlotte, I don't care what you say about him anymore. He's probably not all those bad things and whatever... because I don't care about his excuses... because I love you! and he's stupid and he can't have you anymore and... and... and (you could tell she was looking for a good word) and (she was being pretty loud and sincere) He's just... he's a LEAVER!" We all started laughing really hard. We were all laughing saying over and over "he's a leaver"! At first she was trying to explain it saying "Well because he left, and he kept leaving..." but we were laughing too hard to listen to her. She started laughing at herself too. The laughing went on and on with all of us for at least 30 minutes. After all the terrible things we'd said in our catty little sewing circle over the years nothing was ever as true or as mean. Now among my friends the worst thing you can be is a leaver. Hey motive... She's a LEVER! Hope you are feeling better. :bunny: What a great story. At the end of the day nothing really matters more than the fact that they left. It's true. Leavers don't deserve our tears or sorrow - if they didn't want us than why do we still want them? And yet the grieving process has to run its course - there's the rub. My friends have all rallied, like yours, to take my exes down a few pegs. What's interesting is that with this ex? Every one of my friends sincerely believes that he was wrong for me, that he didn't share my values, that he didn't bring adequate communication skills to the relationship and that there was ample evidence from his first marriage that I would have been extremely unhappy with him over the long term. This, in time, will be my comfort and biggest source of healing. Beyond being a leaver, which he was, TWICE, *and* being a cheater, he was wholly and completely inadequate as a life partner for me.
Trialbyfire Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 In order to get over someone, we all demonize them. Anger is a good suppressant for softer emotions.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 What a great story. At the end of the day nothing really matters more than the fact that they left. It's true. Leavers don't deserve our tears or sorrow - if they didn't want us than why do we still want them?He decided not to do the minor work on the relationship and ended it. I knew he was making a mistake. I stopped wanting him in that way by that evening. And yet the grieving process has to run its course - there's the rub. So true sunshine. I'm so happy that's over for me now. My friends have all rallied, like yours, to take my exes down a few pegs. What's interesting is that with this ex? Every one of my friends sincerely believes that he was wrong for me, Almost all of my friends thought he was right for me until the very end. that he didn't share my values,We had pretty similar views but apparently he didn't value the rarity of that realtionship as much as i did.that he didn't bring adequate communication skills to the relationship and that there was ample evidence from his first marriage that I would have been extremely unhappy with him over the long term.Ditto! Everyone saw that clearly. I never understood much about his marriage because he never said much about it. So I won't speculate but my friends certainly did. This, in time, will be my comfort and biggest source of healing. Beyond being a leaver, which he was, TWICE,Ditto again Sunshine. *and* being a cheater, he was wholly and completely inadequate as a life partner for me.I can't say any of that because I don't know and I never will. It seems your friends are right sunshine. You deserve more.
Issues & tissues Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I was with four or five close girlfriends and their SO's and they were all trying to keep me smiling. Everyone was taking their shots at him in rotation. I was becoming bored, withdrawn and sad again. A few of the boyfriends tried to make me laugh with some funny comments but I wasn't smiling anymore. I told them all that I appreciated what they were trying to do and started to explain that I knew that no one really thought that his head was huge or that he was dumb and socially inept. One of my girlfriends stood up and looked at me and said; "Charlotte, I don't care what you say about him anymore. He's probably not all those bad things and whatever... because I don't care about his excuses... because I love you! and he's stupid and he can't have you anymore and... and... and (you could tell she was looking for a good word) and (she was being pretty loud and sincere) He's just... he's a LEAVER!" We all started laughing really hard. We were all laughing saying over and over "he's a leaver"! At first she was trying to explain it saying "Well because he left, and he kept leaving..." but we were laughing too hard to listen to her. She started laughing at herself too. The laughing went on and on with all of us for at least 30 minutes. After all the terrible things we'd said in our catty little sewing circle over the years nothing was ever as true or as mean. Now among my friends the worst thing you can be is a leaver. Hey motive... She's a LEVER! Hope you are feeling better. :bunny: That is so funny - sounds like you and I have the same friends.
allanDR Posted June 15, 2008 Posted June 15, 2008 I've never been mad at my ex because I still love her, even though she screwed me over really bad. i just focus the anger towards the new guy she's screwing. we still love each other which makes it so much harder.
Author motive2002 Posted June 15, 2008 Author Posted June 15, 2008 They're clever. This is survival to these people. They have no idea about what a healthy relationship is about, so they con people. Oh.. my.. god!! This sounds like the ex to a T. She was abandoned by both her parents at some point. Maybe that's why she is the way she is. Heh, armchair psychology is fun! What gets me is how could she have been married for as long as she had? Maybe her ex was a bigger con than she was.
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