Update on Tongue-Tied!

[spookie]

Thanks so much for input, Stockalone. That was really enlightening.

 

I have another little update. Yesterday was TT's birthday and thanks to my ridiculously understanding roommate Laura, who offered, once again, to sleep in B's room, TT and I got to sleep in my bed and be alone.

 

First we took a walk around the lake, though. He held my hand and told me he was glad I'd slowed it down, that he only wanted to go as fast as I was comfortable so that our relationship didn't end up just sexual. And that he had really enjoyed spending time with me on Sunday, and has been wishing all day he could get me alone.

 

He also said that he knew, or hoped he knew, what I wanted: to be with him. Damn right.

 

Then we went back to my room and spent the whole night kissing, talking, laughing and cuddling. It was AMAZING. I know it's too soon, but I felt so close to him that it actually felt like love.

 

Whoever said he's gonna have to open up, that's true, but it hasn't been a problem - he's been keeping himself wide, wide open and asking me to do the same, which is actually hard. Dating my ex, the one I loved, was a fcvking course in withdrawl to get closer. He was the classic example of those guys who only like you when you're leaving. I know it's unhealthy and wrong, but since, there's a part of me that's always automating what I say, to seem (and perhaps feel) half-invested. I think TT can tell, but he's trying to crack me open, just like I'm trying with him.

 

And he's the sweetest guy I've ever met I feel so lucky - for hours yesterday I got to hear and feel the whole range of what we all want. He told me I was beautiful, sexy, that being with me was the best birthday present ever, that I felt right in his arms, that he could spend forever holding me. Whenever some clothes would come off, he'd ask me if I was sure. It was a little over the top at times, almost, but I'm not complaining.

[johan]

It sounds like things are going quite well, Spookie. I'm happy for you. I've felt that way a few times and I love it. It's a great way to start a relationship. Just be gentle with him.

[spookie]

I would wait quite a while to have sex with him. The way he is outright stating "Let's have sex" makes me think he might be on a mission to get the virginity thing out of the way. you want to make sure he is genuine with his affections and it not be about sex for him.

 

I was afraid of this too, and I'll keep it in mind, but the way he's been pursuing me since that night has led me to believe that he does want more. It's been amazing. He called me to take another walk around the lake tonight, and even though it would have been really easy to spend the whole time making out, he made sure we spent a good portion of that time just holding hands and talking. (The only problem with this is that he makes me weak at the knees, so my brain is mush and I suck balls at conversation.) Afterward, things got heavy in the hallway, but we parted without pushing things too far, and a couple of minutes later, he sent me a text: Thank you for the wonderful evening.

 

I am retardedly happy.

 

My only concern is that once we start having sex, it's all we'll ever want to do. I literlaly cannot keep my hands off him. I can't explain it.

[spookie]

It sounds like things are going quite well, Spookie. I'm happy for you. I've felt that way a few times and I love it. It's a great way to start a relationship. Just be gentle with him.

 

Thanks Johan.

 

I wonder if it's the ONLY way to start a good relationship?

[Nemo]

Isn't that the b*tch of the matter, though. We want the guy in the driver's seat, but to drive in exactly the direction we are secretly hoping for.

Exactly right. It looks like spookie got herself a guy in a stretch limo. It's pretty darn comfortable as you relax on the way to Bliss City. You must be getting really close, because the anticipation won't stop coming. It's been a long, leisurely ride, the windows are heavily tinted, but you can just feel that it's getting bigger and bigger. Every so often he pulls over to jump in the back and fluff the pillows.

My only concern is that once we start having sex, it's all we'll ever want to do.

What a terrible burden. Anyway, unrelenting lashings of extreme pleasure never killed nobody.

[shadowplay]

Wow, your blossoming relationship sounds like it has the makings of something special and exciting. I confess I felt a twinge of envy reading this. I’d be thrilled if a guy I liked told me he “could spend forever in [my] arms.” How cute. He says all the right things, and seems to genuinely mean them.

 

I can really relate to your comment about automatically --- your words. I do the same thing around guys, especially my boyfriend. Experience has taught me to act slightly aloof and detached at all times around guys I like. I hate the push pull dance, but it seems like most people respond to it so I begrudgingly play along. It would be insanely awesome to meet a guy who I could be myself with.