celinedion1 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 So my ex and I are now friends. The girl who he cheated on me with he's been "seeing" her for only a week. They met online....So here's the problem, He wants to move across the US to the east coast to live with her. Keep in mind that he lives on the west coast, and it's only been 1 week. Now then here comes the tricky part, she has a live in boyfriend. He's already sent her money for rent. Her boyfriend has some issues of his own. My ex wants to met her, & live with her all at once. He's planning on doing this 2 months from now so in a total of 3 months. Everything he knows is here, his family, his friends, people who he went to college with. Everyone is trying ot talk him out of it incliding me. He's never lived on his own before and also he hs a pattern of going from relationship to relationship. He and I were engaged and now he's telling this girl that he wants ot marry her. Is there anything that I could say or do that could prevent him from making a very big mistake. He's a good friend of mine and i just don't want ot see him get hurt or even worse. i pointed out to him what if things don't work out, he told me that he would deal with it when/if that happens. He told me that he's not going ot think about it now. Is there anything that any of you can think of that I could possibly say to get him to rethink this. One more little thing everyone is trying ot talk him out of it except for one person. That one person told him to follow his heart and so my ex (now friend) is listening ot him instead of everyone else whos telling him that hes making a big mistake.
justaman99 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 So my ex and I are now friends. The girl who he cheated on me with he's been "seeing" her for only a week. They met online....So here's the problem, He wants to move across the US to the east coast to live with her. Keep in mind that he lives on the west coast, and it's only been 1 week. I knew a girl for a few months that lived on the East Coast. She was originally from where I live and did eventually end up moving back here to CA. But in the interim I so badly wanted to be with her I started trying to figure out how to get over there. Looking back on it it would have been a huge mistake. Not because we didn't end up working out when she did come back, but because you just don't know a person well enough to give up your life for. I would question his confidence and his judgment. The girl still has a boyfriend, he's sending her money, he's giving up his life for this girl he barely knows. He doesn't sound very intelligent or rational. Some people have to learn the hard way no matter what you say to him.
Author celinedion1 Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 I knew a girl for a few months that lived on the East Coast. She was originally from where I live and did eventually end up moving back here to CA. But in the interim I so badly wanted to be with her I started trying to figure out how to get over there. Looking back on it it would have been a huge mistake. Not because we didn't end up working out when she did come back, but because you just don't know a person well enough to give up your life for. I would question his confidence and his judgment. The girl still has a boyfriend, he's sending her money, he's giving up his life for this girl he barely knows. He doesn't sound very intelligent or rational. Some people have to learn the hard way no matter what you say to him. Thank you for your input and advice. The thing that worries me most of all is that this girl has live in boyfriend and now my friend wants to go there meet her and live with her all at once in only a 3 month time frame. However currently it's only been a week and already he's planning on giving up everything that he knows to be with someone whom he doesn't really know. The girls boyfriend is into drugs, so I doubt that the money that my ex sent her really went for rent. Also I agree with you, he's not being very rational. After I broke it off with him he became very sad & depressed. I still don't think that he's thinking very clearly. I just hope that he comes to his senses before it's too late. By the way I love your signature/quote, it's very nice.
borelandkaren Posted June 14, 2008 Posted June 14, 2008 So my ex and I are now friends. The girl who he cheated on me with he's been "seeing" her for only a week. They met online....So here's the problem, He wants to move across the US to the east coast to live with her. Keep in mind that he lives on the west coast, and it's only been 1 week. Now then here comes the tricky part, she has a live in boyfriend. He's already sent her money for rent. Her boyfriend has some issues of his own. My ex wants to met her, & live with her all at once. He's planning on doing this 2 months from now so in a total of 3 months. Everything he knows is here, his family, his friends, people who he went to college with. Everyone is trying ot talk him out of it incliding me. He's never lived on his own before and also he hs a pattern of going from relationship to relationship. He and I were engaged and now he's telling this girl that he wants ot marry her. Is there anything that I could say or do that could prevent him from making a very big mistake. He's a good friend of mine and i just don't want ot see him get hurt or even worse. i pointed out to him what if things don't work out, he told me that he would deal with it when/if that happens. He told me that he's not going ot think about it now. Is there anything that any of you can think of that I could possibly say to get him to rethink this. One more little thing everyone is trying ot talk him out of it except for one person. That one person told him to follow his heart and so my ex (now friend) is listening ot him instead of everyone else whos telling him that hes making a big mistake. Huh?! I can understand that you two are now friends but this guy is a big boy and can make his own mistakes. Step back. Don't get involved.....Not your problem anymore, friend, boyfriend or neither.
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