Author melodymatters Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 I know man ! I took the year off, went for the supposed " nice guy", listened to all the signals, asked the same damn questions 10 times in ten different ways. I'm still reeling honestly, angry and reeling.
sb129 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Aw MM. I was reading the thread from the beginning and I was SO excited for you, and now this! Didn't see that coming, thats for sure. Sorry to hear about his flake-out, but I think you did the right thing by totally backing off. Any wavering on your part would have just encouraged his flakiness and drawn it out further. Your decisiveness should be a lesson to him that if you p*** around, the good ones don't stick around. You are a catch MM, don't take any flaky ole BS.
tanbark813 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Well good for you for making his decision for him. F**k that guy.
Art_Critic Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Ah shiot MM.. WTF is it with him to do that to you ?.. it isn't because he is a nice guy.. it is because he is an eff'ng assclown... What a jerk... and you are right.. bullet dodged...
underpants Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Dammit. I refrained from earlier posting as I hoped he would be super cool and good for you...and my silent doubts would be just that. Was this that 'poly' guy?
Author melodymatters Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 Dammit. I refrained from earlier posting as I hoped he would be super cool and good for you...and my silent doubts would be just that. Was this that 'poly' guy? Yeah, which supposedly was just a philosophy he adopted to deal with the asexuality of his 4 yr crush, but if he ever got a chance for something "this wonderful" he would never see any need to look outside. Again, asked and answered 10 different ways, 10 different times. DAMN, I pride myself on being able to seperate the wheat from the chaff. It's not like we hadn't been over everything, ad nauseum, from day one. If THIS, is where communication, honesty and full disclosure gets you, give me the snakes every time..... at least I'm familiar with their hiss.....
Nevermind Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Oh no. I read it and I thought it would really work. It seemed different, and just a tad more complicated than textbook. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. He is an ass-clown indeed. What a ridiculous loser!
underpants Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Trust me.... Don't settle for the snake because...at least they are honest about being a snake. The pain involved with that kind of relationship falling apart is worse because you have to get mad at yourself for choosing a bad situation to begin with. Someone else letting you down, sucks. Letting yourself down sucks more. I think you tried and did your very best. If he is that conflicted, then he might always be like that. ...and you got out before it went on for too long. I would be worried that he will try to reel you in somemore and continue to go back and forth on whatever 'label' enables him to feel a little torn. Before you know it you could be poly number ? and he can rationalize it by saying he was upfront himself about it. (...maybe...I'm cynical) Regardless, he is not completely finished with this woman and you are wise to let go. Let him deal with his issues. You did good to address concerns and communicate them to him early on. Let that be the positive thing gained from this. Who knows? He may deal with it and come to you freely. That should not stop you from being super objective about it now, as well as looking around for less complicated and more fully compatible possibilities. I'm a little peeved for you but actually, just glad that you were able to figure it out (for you) early on.
luvmy2ns Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 Ah, shoot MM. I'm sorry. But good for you for being wise and strong and dumping his loser behind!
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