roghornio Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I would definatly say i am over it all now... But now comes the assessment. Recently been suffering the dreaded cringe/embarrassment looking back to how I dealt with post breakup. Never did anything really bad.. just the sms/chasing thing. I wish I had just cut all contact back at the end. Just looks weak and desperate with hindsight really… though she did her fare share of sms/replying as well. It was a mutual breakup, but she did tell me after a few weeks she wasn’t interested/just wanted to be friends (after I asked her to come away with me on holiday) and yet I still texted… in fact I think she arranged to meet up with me at one point after this.. so I guess I was led on in my mind. It’s all just rather embarrassing thinking about it – especially as I’ve had one sms in a couple months from her. The mind beats its self up and can’t help feel bad about it. Anyone else feel like that? I’m sure we will all look back and laugh at it all one day.
mollers Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I would definatly say i am over it all now... But now comes the assessment. Recently been suffering the dreaded cringe/embarrassment looking back to how I dealt with post breakup. Never did anything really bad.. just the texting/chasing thing. I wish I had just cut all contact back at the end. Just looks weak and desperate with hindsight really… though she did her fare share of texting/replying as well. It was a mutual breakup, but she did tell me after a few weeks she wasn’t interested/just wanted to be friends (after I asked her to come away with me on holiday) and yet I still texted… in fact I think she arranged to meet up with me at one point after this.. so I guess I was led on in my mind. It’s all just rather embarrassing thinking about it – especially as I’ve had one sms in a couple months from her. The mind beats its self up and can’t help feel bad about it. Anyone else feel like that? I’m sure we will all look back and laugh at it all one day. I don't feel like that about my recent break-up as I have maintained NC despite still loving him but accepting that it is over. I am hurting like mad but will maintain my dignity. However I once had a relationship end with a guy and looking back now it is laughable. I was devastated and cried for weeks, texting, ringing etc whilst he kept his phone off. I even took a letter to his work. And now? I feel sick at the thought of him! It's amazing what the heart can do to you.
Author roghornio Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 I don't feel like that about my recent break-up as I have maintained NC despite still loving him but accepting that it is over. I am hurting like mad but will maintain my dignity. Keep it up!! it is true – saying nothing means you can’t make a mess of anything. A valuable lesson. I know I didn’t do anything psycho-esque, but if the shoe was on the other foot and left someone I would not want to hear from them… And I guess this is where NC comes into play cause she would text me and I would see that as a sign of interest and reply… which would bounce back and forth. Better to die on your feet than on your knees I thought! Made so much sense at the time – Seriously folks listen to your brain not your heart LOL
mollers Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Seriously folks listen to your brain not your heart LOL I second that. My brain is definitely my best friend at the moment.
kizik Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I don't feel like that about my recent break-up as I have maintained NC despite still loving him but accepting that it is over. I am hurting like mad but will maintain my dignity. Mollers, me too - haven't begged or bargained since the first few days after the breakup. Now I haven't talked to her in almost a month. She's a teacher finishing off the school year, and I just want to write her "Congratulations!"... but I know I shouldn't. On top of that, she's moving back to the area where I live in a couple weeks, b/c she got a job there. She hated being away from her parents and me 200 miles away, but really, she hated being away from her parents. I never felt all that missed. This girl is highly dependent on the company of other people, and as a result, she doesn't know herself. I'm sure she wishes she just kept the job 200 miles away, b/c now she's moving with ME as part of the reason, and we are broken up!! It's so sad.
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