zilverenvlinder Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 So, my boyfriend and I live together and have been together for about 2 years. About a year ago, I found out he'd been cheating on me with some bimbo. It hurt me so bad I felt like dying. At the time, and for months after, I was paranoid, crazy, and babysat him like a child. He understood. But the paranoia has pretty much been wearing away, and I'm definitely still hurt by it, but I'm not having a cow wondering where he is or what he's doing when he's out "male bonding". I just don't care anymore. It's just, ever since last July when I found out about his side dish tramp, my feelings for him have just been fading away. I'm starting to even feel relieved when he calls me and tells me he's going to the bar with his coworker male friends, or whatever. I just want to sit here all day and watch TV with my dog, wake up, go to work, come home and watch more TV. And drink vodka or rum or whatever is in the freezer. Also, he has a daughter, whom he has ignored for the last two months for some reason... the poor kid is only six years old. Do I really want children with someone like that? So...the big question is...what are the signs? What are the signs that something like this should just be over? I would appreciate some input and maybe some similar instance stories? Thanks, guys. <3 always z
justaman99 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 So...the big question is...what are the signs? What are the signs that something like this should just be over?. The minute he cheated on you and the fact he has ignored his 6 year old daughter for the last couple months. Sorry but this guy is a dead beat.
Author zilverenvlinder Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 You know what...you're right. Hell yeah. F--- that. Another question I have, is... we have the greatest little dog in the world. He bought him, but I love that little guy more than anything. When this ends, how does "dog custody" work? Or not at all? I just know I would be heartbroken without that little dog.
justaman99 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 If he doesn't want to care for a child he probably won't care about the dog. But if you show an interest and how much you love the pooch odds are good he'll try and take him just to spite you. Lay your foot down and say you're keepin em. Better yet bring the dog somewhere else while he gets his **** out.
Template Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 He doesn't care about you, his daughter, and most certainly not the dog. Kick his arse to the curb, and take the dog with you.
ioncebelieved Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 If he doesn't want to care for a child he probably won't care about the dog. You so beat me to saying that!! When I was divorced a few years ago, my ex wife and I had a Min Pin dog and it was really quite easy figuring out who was going to get her. The one that showed the dog more of everything. That of course would be me! Of course if it gets ugly between you and him, he may become a Richard Skull and try and get the dog just to make you mad!! That would be dirty pool!!!
Trialbyfire Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I just want to sit here all day and watch TV with my dog, wake up, go to work, come home and watch more TV. And drink vodka or rum or whatever is in the freezer. Be very careful of this time. It sounds like you've fallen into a minor depression. This is the time to get out and do things. Bump up your exercise regime, get yourself feeling good about "you". As for your bf, he's a write off. What a jerk to cheat and what a jerk to neglect his own child. I would get out of this environment, as soon as possible, with or without the dog. The only real possibility is that the two of you live in a jurisdiction where you're common-law, therefore, can divide what's acquired through the term of the cohabitation, equally.
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