UnratedEdition Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Let me just preface this by saying that I've often lurked around here, and usually am not a big of these kind of posts. I usually think it's pathetic how oblivious the original poster is, and I have a feeling I'm going to end up in the same category...but, this is just something I can't put together... Anyways, me and this girl have always been friends of friends. I'd never hung out with her or anything, but just from conversations with friends, I ultimately knew who she was. So I get a new job at a grocery store, where she works. On my second day on the job, I still hadn't even got the chance to talk to her, and she adds me as a friend on Facebook. Normally, I would completely look past this and assume she was just adding me as an acquantiance since we work together now, but I realized she had virtually no one else on her friends list from work - the ones I knew that had a page, anyways. So, moving along, we ended up hanging out a few times with a group of friends. We almost instantly clicked, and we're very compatible - between the two of us, we had everyone having a great time all night - including her boyfriend. Now, I'll stop the story again here and just say that no - I'm not trying to get with her while she has a boyfriend. I'm not a douche, and I really don't condone that kind of behavior. But, I have had a few different relationships in the past that both started by meeting them when they had boyfriends, and they both worked out rather well. So, if she is interested in me...then obviously, I won't be pushing the just be friends, I'd like to leave it open... Anyways, when we are back at work, she is cold as hell to me. She hardly ever talks to me, and any communication we have is eye contact, a hello, a smile, and thats it. I hadn't once even entertained the fact that maybe there could be something more there, until about week later she came in on her day off. I was working with my friend, and she gave me a really big smile - almost like she was happy to run in to me. Of course, this gave me a little butterfly in my stomach, but when my said something like "Dude, I think she's got a thing for you"...then my mind started to flip. I mean, theres a million different angles things could probably really be - she might be uncomfortable with me at work just because a lot of her boyfriends friends work there, or she might just be like that normally. Personally, I think all the eye contact and nervousness speaks for itself, but then again..I could just be reading **** wrong. Ahh, it feels good to vent.
Suiyobi Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 These mixed signals never seem to end... Someone here once told me (or rather, implied) that I should try not to overanalyze things. I would like to say the same to you. You already said that she has a boyfriend and that you don't want to try to steal her from that guy as that would be an act of douchebaggery. So what I think is you should just keep doing what you normally do and let nature take its course.
sortofconfused Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 hmmmm, go for it id say. forget about the fact she has a boyfriend, who cares? doesnt sound like she does. sometimes you just have to step up and take the other guy down a notch. but, i also advise you to not come on too strong, just be nice and cool and show her with out talk that you are better than her boyfriend. and when you feel you have an opening, take it.
Recommended Posts