Lolsy254 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 So this is my first thread and my second post. I hope I do this all correctly. I'll give just a quick run-down of my story. I was with my ex for about 3-4 years. Known him for about 4, and we broke up once before for about 6 months a couple of years ago. We were long-distance. We broke up for the second time just a little under two months ago and I found out something this week and I haven't been coping that great. At first I found out he was sleeping with someone, but he confirmed and another friend confirmed that it was just rebound thing. He got quiet angry that someone had let it slip. I also found out what her first name was, but he didn't know that, he seemed quiet angry at his friends that I knew and he refused to tell me her name. Anyways a couple of days have passed and one of our friends accepted her on "Facebook", so now I know her whole name and what she looks like. I just couldn't handle, it was alright when she was faceless, but know I now exactly what she looks like. I would sign in, check my messages repeatedly hoping to hear from him, hoping that I still meant something too him. So I wrote him a message a little while ago saying her full name and then I wrote that I couldn't take it anymore and I was really sorry that I didn't have enough strength to handle it anymore. Then I went around blocking him from certain thing. I know if I sent that and didn't block him, we would fight and I would forgive him and we would be "friends" until the next time her name came up, or something happened. I don't want to lose him, he was a very important part of my life, but I don't know what else to do. I fought so hard for us to stay friends.
critter909 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 My bf left me last week and changed his status on myspace to single within days. Then he started getting stupid "comments" posted on his page from some chick. I can't take it. I hate it. I won't go on there anymore and am just going to delete my account. Good for you for blocking him, just like me you are torturing yourself by looking.
Author Lolsy254 Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 Deleting your account will be the best thing for you:D I was torturing myself too...Gotta stick too our guns!hehe
sultry33 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 totally understand.. my ex status was showing single.. then its complicated.. no not looking.. single.. he added a friend whom he knoiws i cant stand.. plus as above straight away the flirty comments.. went on a forum yesterday that we are both part of and although i didnt visit it much i was going put link for money saving there.. then i saw that his old stalker lol was back.. big time hitting on him.. nearly every post is to him! he told me before he dont like her.. but apparently he has texted and called her! wtf i nearly freaked but then i thought its his life... hurt alot though
Author Lolsy254 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 There's a forum where we are both on too, he doesn't visit it too much, but they wanted too put pictures up. So I told them to post the pictures on Myspace instead. This particular forum is the only "safe" space that I have right now. I think my friends will be really annoyed with me,LOL. The whooooooooooooole reason I got rid of Myspace was so I didn't have to see pictures of this girl, and know they want me too relieve that horror in my safe place. I think my friends will be annoyed, but understand ... Hopefully,LOL.
sultry33 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 luckily whilst i was offline for a month after we split he removed all our mutual friends from my facebook.. i came back only had 3 friends! my son, female work collegue.. and him.. all my friends guys.. girls gone plus ones we both knew.. found it bit odd actually, but then again he had a month.. he left me too and he set up dating profiles to try catch me out.. still dont really know why, as he left so really i could have done the dating site thing if he was that worried.. why leave.. i hate being jealous but boy dont some come out when they find out your guy is single.. find it funny actually.. espically as he is a moderator so could easily remove the "comments".. i could go on there and i know for a fact at least 2 of the members would be on me like a rash.. but you know what im not playing them games.. if i was you id leave them too it.. stay clear for a bit or set up new profile and enjoy the flirt;) i personally hate cyber friends.. stalkers.. not real life really is it.. and stops you making real connections in the real world.. as for pictures of your ex and this rebound girl.. just shows how he thinks now really.. thats what id be telling myself.. lets face it we could all go out and get photo with a hotty;) a picture is just that. hugs to u x
Author Lolsy254 Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 i hate being jealous but boy dont some come out when they find out your guy is single.. find it funny actually.. espically as he is a moderator so could easily remove the "comments".. i could go on there and i know for a fact at least 2 of the members would be on me like a rash.. but you know what im not playing them games.. if i was you id leave them too it.. stay clear for a bit or set up new profile and enjoy the flirt;) as for pictures of your ex and this rebound girl.. just shows how he thinks now really.. thats what id be telling myself.. lets face it we could all go out and get photo with a hotty;) a picture is just that. hugs to u x I just wish I knew whats going on his head ya know? One of the things he said to me was that it wasn't official and he didn't want a life-long relationship...but its only been...well today it will have been 2 months. He hooked up with this girl like a month later. I just wish I knew, I haven't talked to him since I found out about her and there are so many things that I want too ask him. As for the forum thing, there my real friends. I live in Australia and they all live in Arizona, which is why this forum is such a safe place to me. Its just a place to muck about on and lets me keep in touch with just them. I've gone out and met them all a tonne of times and am seriously hoping to work there this next time I go out there. As much as I hate him right now and do not trust him, I hope this is a rebound thing. I really want it too be. I hope that it is just like a "sex" thing. Yeah, how all these people come out when you break up, on both sides!...it is funny! LOL Hugs to you too! I really needed one of those~.^Thanks^.^
sultry33 Posted June 16, 2008 Posted June 16, 2008 arr your welcome.. i do get bad thoughts sometimes.. i want to sneak on that forum and say "he must be really desperate to call.. text you as he said you was a right minger.. and clearly you like my leftovers.. his taste must be bad now so im so clearly out of his league.." but nooooooooooo im better than this! so tempting though:lmao:
Author Lolsy254 Posted June 17, 2008 Author Posted June 17, 2008 lol, it is very tempting to do that...but I know it would be the wrong thing too do. Even his best friend was saying that this girl was a down-grade, so that made me feel a little better:D Actually it made me feel tonnes better,LOL. It was the first time that I had smiled in a long time,hehe. Its funny how his best friend has told me even if my ex wanted to come back too me, that he hoped I'd have the strength to say no. Him and I both know that my ex has no idea what he wants.
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