seanOban Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Well this is the first time for me in this formum and in love that is. Knew my girl for 3 years (uni 1st yr) and she had liked me since the beginning. We decided to give love/relation a shot and well for 1 yr with ups and downs but some great times togethr we spent it like a married couple almost. Day in day out, cookin, studyin evrythin possible. I was her frst bf and she was my frst long term gf. the main problem always seemed to be me being possessive about her specially with guys who liked her. Bfre commin to visit family for 4 months, we were suppsd to have our 1 yr anniversary and well we wnt clubbin whre i grinded with a diff grl. she got super pissed and wntd to break up, i told her i was sorry and she agreed. There isnt anything that I had not provided her, from wtch, phone clothes. but i forgot a rose (yeh i know very dumb of me). When i did come to visit family, all was well for one month, where she said she was having a gd time with our commin friends and going out. Then on the 2nd month end, she decided to break up and even told me about another guy she had met thru my friend, who was "really nice and caring" . Now im rushing back to toronto for her, leavin asap. her sister supports me, but she can only do so much. She wnts me to stay with her family (rent a room) when i come and I am her best friend. What should I do? I cant just let her go. So I think I should give her time and let her see how the dating world is like while being friends(cuz it seems to be the best way for me to have a chance in future). She thinks evrything will be smooth, but emphasizes im a huge part of her life. One more complication... next year for 8 months, we are room mates with another of her female friends staying with us. I know her new bf is gnna come evry weekend, but I wanna make sure they dont get nywhr. I dont wanna be serious with anyone else than her, but do definitely wanna work on stuff and make sure work on my shortcommings. All her friends (other than the one we are living with) support me and know me well. Is it rebound for her? considering she knows the guy for barely a month. What should I do guys, help me out...to be or not to be her best friend?
CailinPig Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I don't think the two of you should be in a relationship. this is just my personal opinion and I may be incorrect, but you were 'grindin' with a different girl in a club??!! What the hell??!! I wouldn't be with anyone who would do somethin like that. Besdies that point, I think you should concentrate on your own wellbeing. being friends right now is not the best option. rather, you have to be like business associates more than anything. You will be sharing a place for 8 months. You have got to remain on good terms. That won't happen if you're friends now cos you're not over her. You'll have to control everythin you say so as not to upset the balance. it's very difficult. Is there any way you can get out of sharing with her??
Author seanOban Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 nopes not really a way to get out of the lease. and the fact is i really want her for life, not really gnna fool around, its been screwin my life tht one night in the club...
Recommended Posts