Trialbyfire Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Is that like the Bermuda Triangle? Wormhole to another dimension.... Yes, people get sucked into it...
twice_shy Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Lookingforward -- I think you've got it all wrong. I think that if you're doing something that you'd be willing to do in front of your SO. Would you flirt in front of your SO? Don't waste your time. LF sees the bf's of other women as fair game with no committment.
OWoman Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Probably - sometimes I feel like I'm falling down the rabbit hole here I swear Yep but instead of finding Mad Hatters and exciting March Hares, all you find are dozy dormice. Oh, and a Queen of Hearts or two shrieking, "off with her head!"
OWoman Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Don't waste your time. LF sees the bf's of other women as fair game with no committment. TS, are you stalking LF? I've noticed that every time she posts you have to post soon after and tell the world you think her morals have lost their elasticity. (Why don't you just ask her out on a date and have done? The worst that can happen is she turns you down..)
Lookingforward Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Yep but instead of finding Mad Hatters and exciting March Hares, all you find are dozy dormice. Oh, and a Queen of Hearts or two shrieking, "off with her head!" ROFLMAO :lmao:
Lookingforward Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 TS, are you stalking LF? I've noticed that every time she posts you have to post soon after and tell the world you think her morals have lost their elasticity. (Why don't you just ask her out on a date and have done? The worst that can happen is she turns you down..) oh and not to mention the inhabitants that make up their own little versions of "reality" - apparently they also think if you post it enough times that makes it true
twice_shy Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 And THIS is where people who've not been through the pain of being betrayed don't "get" those that have. Flirting is NOT harmless I completely agree. If someone feels the need to flirt and "socialize" in a way that is inappropriate, then they shouldn't have a bf or gf. ...ask all those BS's out there who've been dealt the pain of having that flirting escalated to an actual affair. It happens all the time. It often does lead to something further And thats the part the flirt defenders do not get. specially later in a relationship when the "honeymoon" is over. Its easy to justify flirting and say its harmless if you've never been in a relationship destroyed by it. Once you've been through that...you learn that lesson the hard way. Flirting is just bad boundaries. Bad boundaries very, VERY often lead to cheating later. You're right, this is just a 'gf/bf' thing at the moment. But...to me, another part of the whole 'gf/bf' relationship is that its a trial run for marriage later. If he's flirting now, when things are great because of the lack of pressure and the newness of the relationship...what does that bode for a marriage??? Not good.
twice_shy Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 TS, are you stalking LF? Nope, I'm sure you'd like to think so. Seems we view the same posts, as do you. (Why don't you just ask her out on a date and have done? The worst that can happen is she turns you down..) No, the worst that would happen is she doesn't turn me down.
OWoman Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 oh and not to mention the inhabitants that make up their own little versions of "reality" - apparently they also think if you post it enough times that makes it true "Remember what the dormouse said: Feed your head. Feed your head."
Lookingforward Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I think all that aside, the OP has every right to be royalled po'd at her invasion of his privacy PLUS her berating him NOW for something said so early in their R - when they were first "dating"
OWoman Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 I think all that aside, the OP has every right to be royalled po'd at her invasion of his privacy PLUS her berating him NOW for something said so early in their R - when they were first "dating" Agreed. If "gf / bf" really is a "trial run for M" as Owl suggests, the OP should be grateful for the heads up and run for the hills as fast as he can.
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