celinedion1 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Well for anyone who knows my short story my bf and i broke up on june 5th 08. We had no contact and then last night he sent me a text message and then this morning we talked on the phone. We agreed to be friends, is it possable to be friends right after a break up if theres no more feelings?
Crestfallen_KH Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 That's a pretty short amount of time, but if the relationship wasn't very long or deep feelings involved, I would think it could be done.
Grimmjow Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I'm inclined to say no on this one. Even if you don't have feelings he still might. Would it bother you to see him with a new gf? (and vica versa?) Honestly, it's not possible to be friends until neither of you has an ulterior motive for seeing the other person.
roghornio Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 If you still like him... your setting your self up for some serious pain. Don't bother... youll just drag it out.
dharris27 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 agree if it wasn't long or deep. If you never thought he was "the one" once in your life or "it was the best thing ever" then okay sure. But there are stages of grief and denial is the first. That can last for even several months if you're still in contact. I use to think i could just be friend but my ex always tried to get back with me or would say inapproproiate things while dating someone else. It just depends. Have you guys mutually agreed you make better friends than lovers? Or have you only agreed that you two should hold on and stay friends until one of you meets someone new? Totally different.
Author celinedion1 Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 agree if it wasn't long or deep. If you never thought he was "the one" once in your life or "it was the best thing ever" then okay sure. But there are stages of grief and denial is the first. That can last for even several months if you're still in contact. I use to think i could just be friend but my ex always tried to get back with me or would say inapproproiate things while dating someone else. It just depends. Have you guys mutually agreed you make better friends than lovers? Or have you only agreed that you two should hold on and stay friends until one of you meets someone new? Totally different. We had a long talk today and we agreed that we make better friends. He and I are no longer in love with each other or have any romantic feelings for each other. We're both just happy that we are able to be in each others lives as friends. Our relationship lasted for 5 years, and we were engaged for a time. However things fell apart then the romantic feelings disappeared. Also we have found out that we are able to be completely honest with each other and talk about things that we may not of been able to discuss if we were still in a relationship. The breakup wasn't the greatest but it seems like we were ment to be friends and be in each others lives.
justaman99 Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 We had a long talk today and we agreed that we make better friends. He and I are no longer in love with each other or have any romantic feelings for each other. We're both just happy that we are able to be in each others lives as friends. Our relationship lasted for 5 years, and we were engaged for a time. However things fell apart then the romantic feelings disappeared. Also we have found out that we are able to be completely honest with each other and talk about things that we may not of been able to discuss if we were still in a relationship. The breakup wasn't the greatest but it seems like we were ment to be friends and be in each others lives. It's hard for me to believe that after 5 years together and only one week after a break up that both can mutually truly just be friends. It may be possible but very unlikely. How would you feel if he brought a new girl around or said he started dating someone? How do you think he would feel if you do? -Just
Author celinedion1 Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 He already has, he cheated on me after 5 years. I honestly don't care I just want us to be able to be happy. It seems like we're happiest when we're friends. Before he and I ever got together we were best friends and it's nice to know that we're still able to maintain that friendship. I just don't know if it's something that's unheard of or not.
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