northstar1 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 For you guys to get through, or when you feel the saddest or most lonely after your breakup? I find when I first wake up and late at night. In the mornings, for some reason, I find it tough to feel happy going off to work. I do a lot of thinking as I get ready. Not sure why. And evenings at home, I feel lonely at times, esp not having anyone to get into bed with and sleep beside.
Tabatha Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Well, it's alot better than two months ago for me. Back then, i couldn't handle the nights, because everyone else was asleep and I was always up late. Made me feel lonely because I was usually with him during the evening time up until 2 am, when we were dating. Now...I don't even worry about it. I end up talking to him every night, maybe that is why?
SadHeart79 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 For you guys to get through, or when you feel the saddest or most lonely after your breakup? I find when I first wake up and late at night. In the mornings, for some reason, I find it tough to feel happy going off to work. I do a lot of thinking as I get ready. Not sure why. And evenings at home, I feel lonely at times, esp not having anyone to get into bed with and sleep beside. Well for me it's first thing in the morning. As soon as I open my eyes, I think of him and the reality of being on my own hits me again. It used to be easier getting ready for work with him getting ready as well. It's just so much harder now, forcing yourself to get ready on your own. I also find it's hard at night and getting home to an empty house. I know it sounds sad, but I can't even bring myself to sleep on his side of the bed. He's the last thing I think of before I go to sleep and I just hope that I don't dream of him when I do go to sleep. I know how you feel, and it's really hard.
Tabatha Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 That truly must be hard. unfortunately, never had the opportunity to live with him (except one week, but I stayed in the room down the hall. His parents wishes:p). So, the only thing I had to get used to was spending everyday with him, and then it all of a sudden coming to a halt. I do understand about thinking about him when you wake up/when you fall asleep. I think about him all day. He's my first thought when I wake up and my last when I fall asleep. He says I need to quit pinning over him, it will make it easier on me. I try lol.
CailinPig Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Same as me. The morning time because i probably spent the night dreaming of my old life and then woke up to the reality. The night time cos it's the most romantic time and I used to cuddle up with him.
sultry33 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Same as me. The morning time because i probably spent the night dreaming of my old life and then woke up to the reality. The night time cos it's the most romantic time and I used to cuddle up with him. yep same here.. no matter what i think of before i sleep he still haunts my dreams.. then wake up after dreaming we are together doing stuff.. and wolla empty bed.. i often wake up and my arm is dead where he would have been.. we was a very close couple always.. nighttimes i cry everynight.. have a huge bed with just me in it.. on a night out i come in freezing.. he used to be there and id wake him by putting my cold feet an hands on him lol i miss that.. my brain knows he is gone.. my heart still doesnt.
me1234 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 mornings. i usually go to bed feeling ok, but i'm still in the stage where i'm not sleeping well and having dreams (nightmares?) of her. i'm only able to sleep a few hours a night, and i wake up often with my heart racing.
sunshinegirl Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Mornings. I don't have set hours at work, which has made it easy or okay to lay around in bed moping, crying, dwelling, until well past 9am... and then sadly dragging my ass to the shower. Things usually start looking better when I get out the door. I have finally started sleeping diagonally across my bed again.
taylor3205 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Mornings are definitely the hardest part of the day for me. Feel fine until i fully wake up and get that sinking feeling. Must admit it is getting better a little but its been 7 months now. Im still sleeping on the sofa mind you. Ive been through some tough times in my life but I gota say, this has been the toughest. What doesent kill us makes us stronger right!
critter909 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Night time for me! I was sleeping on the couch also but had to move to my bed when mom came to visit, I was embarassed. I hate, hate, hate it. I miss him so much when I'm going to bed, we used to cuddle for a long time each night before sleep, it was always my favorite part of the day. Now I can't sleep and usually cry, look at my phone to see if by some miracle he's called or texted.
Nevermind Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 The weird part for me is...I think of him a lot during the day, but not with emotion. I am really not very sad right now. No tears in weeks, no mind to get back with him. I'd really like to be able to keep some kind of contact - he was my first love and the first year, after all, was great. I just wonder why I think of him so often, if it is without emotion. I can even picture him with her and don't be sad.
fran82 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 when i roll over (away from where he would sleep) during the night, still mostly asleep, and i expect him to roll over towards me and wrap his arm around me, and pull me right up close to him so i cant get away. i miss him most then its the loneliest feeling realizing he's never gonna be there again thinking about him all the time tho, i dont want to ever not think about him tho, even if its just as friends. its a awful thought to think we might never be friends, that i might never talk to him again. not easy!
stlnsmile Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Mornings were really bad at first. But now, now its right now, this time 8ish, the evenings, this is when he would have been here. When we would cuddle and watch T.V., kiss. Right now, when it is just getting dark, the sun is setting, and...alas...I am still alone. It always makes me feel sad. Its the time when the day is done, I have done all the things I am going to do for the day, when the family has settled into its routines for the night...and I have nothing to look forward to, no arms around me, no kisses. Thats when its the hardest.
vivrantflo Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Back when my breakup happend way over a year ago, Saturday night to Sunday morning was the worst. My ex started dating someone two weeks after our breakup, so while I was alone Saturday night, or out with the boys, I knew my ex was with the new guy. I went to bed every Saturday night alone with visuals of her in someone else's bed doing goodness knows what... And waking up Sunday morning alone, knowing that she was waking up next to him. A brutal cycle for me that lasted more than a few months.
bayouboi Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 the hardest time of day are those w/o anyone else around
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