briana77 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I've been divorced for 3 years and I started dating again recently. I've went through the whole rebound thing and just started casual dating. I met a guy while playing pool one night with my girlfriends. We talked for about 2 months off and on over the phone, I was busy with work and couldn't' meet up until last month. We hung out at my house and he ended spending the night and yes one thing did lead to another. When he left he said "this isn't a one night thing". After that I thought he wouldn't be back and he was filling my head with a bunch of bs. Well the very next day he called and we've been talking ever since. He's suppose to come over tomorrow, he says we can watch a movie and hang out. I really like him alot. The thing is I got married when I was 18 to my high school sweetheart and now I'm 30. I don't know a thing about dating or when is the right time to tell him that I really like him and want to start seeing him. I feel like I'm in high school all over again. Any advice would be appreciated. He is a really nice guy, funny, has his own business, owns his house just very well established and I don't want to mess this up. I want to get to know him, I'm not sure if he's "the one" but he sure sounds like a start. I wanted to cook him dinner or do something nice for him when he comes over tomorrow but I don't want to over do it and end up pushing him away. In one of our conversations he brought up dating and said he wasn't looking for anything right now because he had broken up with his girlfriend a few months back. I told him I was still dating and it seemed as though he didn't like my answer. please help:rolleyes:
missdeathwish Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 Cook him dinner. Don't push him. Keep dating other guys. See what happens. Have fun with it!
Prodigal Princess Posted June 13, 2008 Posted June 13, 2008 In one of our conversations he brought up dating and said he wasn't looking for anything right now because he had broken up with his girlfriend a few months back. He has made it clear that he's on the rebound and looking for a f*ck buddy. Meanwhile, you are obviously looking for something more substantial. This can only end in tears (and they wont be his). Why did you invite him over to your house again? You want to be all intimate in a domestic sense and he will just be thinking that sex is on the cards. And if you do sleep with him tomorrow night then you will just confirm his thinking that he can use you for sex. Honestly. Next time you meet a guy meet in a neutral place like a restaurant or a bar, then it wont be so easy for things to escalate.
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