GuttedEnglishBloke Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 I don't know why, but the mornings are the worst. I often end up salty eyed getting ready for work. Perhaps it's because I dream about her so much. It usually takes me a couple of cups of coffee and until 11am to get my head straight. However, last night I didn't dream about her at all, but I still ended up in tears on the way home from work. It's been 7 weeks. Some days are good, some days are bad. Why can't they be good? Surely I've suffered enough? I'm bloody sure she isn't sat at home with her new boyfriend thinking about me or what might have been. *sigh*
jonnybananas Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 ill tell ya what....you are not alone. the mornings are the worst for me. the girl i was seeing would wake up early everyday and send me a text so i would have something sweet to wake up to. i got into the habit of waking up 3 or 4 hours before i needed to be out of the house just to read her sweet little notes. now i still wake up extra early and check my phone out of habit....but now theres nothing there. its the worst way to start your day. you just need to keep positive though. im sure if you got a woman that was so great you can do it again. but nobody is going to fall for a guy with a pouty face and teary eyes. cheer up. youre single and have the world in front of you. you may never get her back but i guarantee in a few years you will look back and feel sillu for sulking over her. youll find someone else. everybody does. just stay positive and remember how you were when she fell for you. youre still the same person and im sure there is someone else out there who would love to fill her shoes. the fun part is going out and finding her!
kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Yes. Mornings are the hardest for me too. I'm in bed till 10:30-11 AM when I used to be up at 9. Getting out of bed is difficult. Nights are tough too. Being alone in that bed with only my thoughts, the distractions of the day over. Like you said, some days are bad, some are good. You should feel happy to have good ones at all. Someone said, Healing isn't linear. I agree, you've suffered enough. But sadly, it isn't over. Just think about how great you will feel once this intense pain has dissipated, and the ex is merely just another person. GEB, you're going to be OK. But I'm so sorry. PS. Coffee is great! Boosts my self-esteem. Since I quit weed and cigs, and drink is under control, I allow myself as much coffee as I want!
v33 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 The mornings were the worst for me as well. Lying in bed, thinking "what if?" or mulling over all the details of her cheating and new life. Now when I wake up I just get the hell out of bed and get busy with something, otherwise I would lie there and fill my head with unproductive nonsense regarding her.
Lookingforward Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 ill tell ya what....you are not alone. the mornings are the worst for me. the girl i was seeing would wake up early everyday and send me a text so i would have something sweet to wake up to. i got into the habit of waking up 3 or 4 hours before i needed to be out of the house just to read her sweet little notes. now i still wake up extra early and check my phone out of habit....but now theres nothing there. its the worst way to start your day. you just need to keep positive though. im sure if you got a woman that was so great you can do it again. but nobody is going to fall for a guy with a pouty face and teary eyes. cheer up. youre single and have the world in front of you. you may never get her back but i guarantee in a few years you will look back and feel sillu for sulking over her. youll find someone else. everybody does. just stay positive and remember how you were when she fell for you. youre still the same person and im sure there is someone else out there who would love to fill her shoes. the fun part is going out and finding her! yup, I still have the urge to bounce out of bed and check my email.......
JustPassingThru Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Mornings are when I'm at my weakest point. I often wake up, look around, wonder if this whole situation was just a nightmare and things will be back to normal. Then I'm reminded of the harsh reality of what really is. Her stuff is gone, my phone has no missed calls of sweet text messages, there is nothing. It's tough, and I keep waiting for it to get better, but recovery is illusive. I've been broken before, and I can safely say, it will get better. Memories fade...
critter909 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Mornings are when I'm at my weakest point. I often wake up, look around, wonder if this whole situation was just a nightmare and things will be back to normal. Then I'm reminded of the harsh reality of what really is. Her stuff is gone, my phone has no missed calls of sweet text messages, there is nothing. It's tough, and I keep waiting for it to get better, but recovery is illusive. I've been broken before, and I can safely say, it will get better. Memories fade... You've said it. This is exactly how I feel every evening, that used to be my favorite time, now it's the loneliest. I hate going to bed alone. I keep my phone by the bed now hoping for one of those "sweet text messages" or a missed call. I've heard it gets better...
Template Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Oh yes. I remember not so fondly when I broke up with my ex of the longest relationship I've had (5 years) a while back that morning literally killed me as well. I used to have dreams, or is fantasies, that she would have came back through my door, and apoligized and everything would be alright. I'd wake up, then force myself to go back to sleep again because dreaming felt so real. Hoo wee those were some depressing times. But as jbananas said, looking back, man I feel really stupid, and I wasted a lot of time. LOL
Template Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 The mornings were the worst for me as well. Lying in bed, thinking "what if?" or mulling over all the details of her cheating and new life. Now when I wake up I just get the hell out of bed and get busy with something, otherwise I would lie there and fill my head with unproductive nonsense regarding her. I agree with this. Luckily work is VERY busy for me nowadays, so I get to think about the work ahead right when I wake up. Sometimes in my sleep. It's really helping in getting over HER, although I must admit I broke the cardinal NC rule, but more on that later
Lolsy254 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I was reading this and it made me cry. I know exactly what you are all going through. I broke up with my b/f of four years just a little under two months ago. Its was a long-distance, but even so. I use to be the one that would send the little messages in the morning. I hate that I can't tell him that I miss him or love him, even just as friends. If I had a nightmare I'd ring him and he would always talk me back to sleep. I just miss those little things that you totally take for granted when your together.
critter909 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 You are right, it's the little things. We miss snuggling on the couch or kissing them good bye in the morning when we go to work. I am having a really hard time with it. I woke up in the middle of the night last night, out of a sound sleep, and just wanted to cry and scream because he was not there. Just felt very sad and alone, at times like that we don't think about the bad things.
Meaplus3 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I don't know why, but the mornings are the worst. I often end up salty eyed getting ready for work. Perhaps it's because I dream about her so much. It usually takes me a couple of cups of coffee and until 11am to get my head straight. However, last night I didn't dream about her at all, but I still ended up in tears on the way home from work. It's been 7 weeks. Some days are good, some days are bad. Why can't they be good? Surely I've suffered enough? I'm bloody sure she isn't sat at home with her new boyfriend thinking about me or what might have been. *sigh* I can see how mornings could be very tough especially if she is the first thing you think about upon waking. Have you tried changing your morning routine a bit? Sometimes a change in routine can be helpful in breaking a certain pattern of thinking. Just a thought. Hang in there. AP:)
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